Sabrina Bendory

He’ll show you compassion and will say sorry not because he knows what he did exactly, but because you’re hurt. 

Love doesn’t conquer all and it definitely doesn’t conquer incompatibility, despite what romantic comedies would have you believe.

Will you ever sleep the way you did before baby? No, those days are long gone.

I needed to know everything about her. Why wasn’t I good enough? And what makes her good enough? 

Here’s the thing about mixed messages. They don’t actually exist, they are completely a female creation. 

Once I understood how men operate, everything was just easy and effortless. There was no confusion and no analyzing and no driving myself crazy trying to figure out what whats and whys. 

Working on yourself, loving yourself, and bettering yourself is what will open the gates to having the love you’ve always wanted.

You think once you cross a certain point the worry will end … as soon as he calls me his girlfriend… as soon as we move in together … as soon as we get engaged … as soon as we set a date, but the end never comes. It’s a trap. 

Whenever you catch yourself stressing, try to remind yourself that this is a huge waste of time and you’re getting nowhere. 

Surround yourself with people who love you and see the best in you. Make time for your passions and for things that make you feel alive, charged, and revitalized. 

Don’t punish yourself for someone else’s decisions or mistakes or stupidity. All his rejection means is he’s not the right guy for you.

He is the type of guy I refer to as a “damage case,” a guy who has a lot of potential hidden under a pile of issues. The “bad boy” who needs to be saved.

Not every woman gets postpartum depression, but pretty much every woman gets a slight case of the blues after the baby comes.

We want him to like us not so much because we really like him, but because it’s validating. It means we’re worthy and likable. It means we’re going to be OK. This is the wrong mindset.

We think they’re so confusing. We think it doesn’t make any sense. We think they play games and send mixed messages. We don’t understand why.

You have to deal with your damage. That’s the only way to get rid of it and not let it spill into our future and ruin it.

Ask yourself what thoughts/behaviors led you into this relationship. What did you bring to the relationship that was good and that you could use in your next relationship?

Explosive chemistry isn’t what creates a lasting, healthy relationship. It can lead to great sex and feelings of euphoria, and you may come to understand why they say love is a drug, but no matter how intense and all consuming, that sort of thing is seldom sustainable long term.