Sabrina Bendory
Relationship Coach
Bestselling Author
Entrepreneur
Sabrina Alexis Bendory is a pioneering blogging entrepreneur who is globally recognized as a dating and relationship expert.
She co-founded the website A New Mode, where she wrote relatable and insightful articles about relationship dynamics that have helped millions of women achieve the love they desire.
Today, Sabrina is one of the most authoritative and popular sources for dating advice on TikTok and Instagram. She also publishes weekly columns on relationships for Thought Catalog and is sought after life coach.
Her best-selling book, You're Overthinking It: Find Lifelong Love By Being Your True Self, was published in 2023 by Thought Catalog Books and is the ultimate guidebook to life and dating. Her follow-up book Detached: How to Let Go, Heal, and Become Irresistible was released in September 2025 and has quickly become a new best seller. Her next book, The Feminine Code: The Unspoken Laws of Power, Magnetism, and Self-Respect, will be released in June 2026.
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Your Toxic Trait, Based On Your Birth Month
The fact is, everyone can be a little toxic some of the time… for other people, it’s a lot of the…
5 Zodiacs Most Likely To Run From Romance
1. Gemini You fall in love pretty quickly. You are genuinely interested in curious about other people and are able to…
5 Zodiacs Who Make The Best Husbands + Life Partners
1. Taurus A Taurus is the most reliable and dependable sign in all of the zodiac, qualities that are essential in…
5 Zodiacs Who Almost Always Run Away From Love
1. Gemini You fall in love pretty quickly. You are genuinely interested in curious about other people and are able to…
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Your Toxic Trait, Based On Your Birth Month
The fact is, everyone can be a little toxic some of the time… for other people, it’s a lot of the time. Usually, a person’s greatest strength is a hint of their greatest weakness, so when you’re in a fragile place, that strong trait can crumble into toxicity. These are the toxic traits each birth…
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Your Toxic Trait, Based On Your Zodiac Sign
The fact is, everyone can be a little toxic some of the time… for other people, it’s a lot of the time. Usually, a person’s greatest strength is a hint of their greatest weakness, so when you’re in a fragile place, that strong trait can crumble into toxicity. These are the toxic traits each zodiac…
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15 Tough (But True) Signs He’s Never Going To Marry You
To help you gain perspective and see more clearly, here are 15 definitive signs that he is never going to marry you.
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12 Concrete Signs Your Ex Will Never Come Back
I’m going to share the signs that it’s time to move on and also give you an action plan for how to get through it, so keep reading!
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5 Mindset Shifts To Overcome Relationship Anxiety
Let’s talk about how stressing screws up your love life and how to keep your relationship anxieties under control.
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8 Signs You’re In A Truly Safe Relationship
You know you’re with a safe person when you can finally exhale. When consistency isn’t a surprise, it’s the baseline. Here are the clearest signs you’re with someone emotionally safe, according to Sabrina Bendory, author of Detached. Their words and actions match A safe person is consistent. What they promise aligns with what they do,…
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Why Narcissists Destroy So Deeply
This essay is an excerpt from the book Detached by author Sabrina Alexis Bendory. You can read the full book here. Narcissists destroy so deeply because they target your deepest insecurities—your need to be loved, seen, or enough—and use them against you. They don’t just break your heart, they crush your spirit and make you…
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Here Are All The Signs You’re Dating Or Married To A Grounded Man
For more than fifteen years, Sabrina Alexis Bendory has studied the mechanics of dating and love. Here she very clearly lists out the signs of a grounded man. And here she explains, ever so simply, that the signs of a grounded man are subtle but unmistakable, revealed not through declarations, but through consistency, presence, and…
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Why ‘Almost Relationships’ Are Destroying People More Than Actual Breakups
Let’s talk about almost relationships. The ones with no label, no closure, no clear beginning or end. But somehow… they still wreck you. People will say, “But it wasn’t even a real relationship.” And technically, maybe that’s true. But you invested: real time, real hope, real emotion. You got attached. That makes it real, at…
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5 Zodiac Signs That Make The Best Husbands + Life Partners
1. Taurus A Taurus is the most reliable and dependable sign in all of the zodiac, qualities that are essential in a partner. When a Taurus commits himself, he goes all in. He will do whatever it takes to make the relationship work and go above and beyond. He also enjoys the finer things in…
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This Is Your Love Language, Based On Your Zodiac Sign
Most people are familiar with the five love languages, popularized by Gary Chapman. They are as follows: words of affirmation, quality time, acts of service, physical touch, and gift-giving. Let’s take a closer look at each one. Words of affirmation is more than just giving compliments, it’s about being really present and showing genuine appreciation…
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5 Misconceptions About Love That Are Keeping You From Finding It
Here are the top five biggest misconceptions about love.
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The Real Difference Between A Relationship That Lasts Forever And One That Doesn’t
Sabrina Bendory is the author of You’re Overthinking It and Detached. Here’s a situation I’ve definitely found myself in and I’m sure you can relate. You meet someone, something clicks, and suddenly a force takes you over. After this encounter you can’t–for the life of you–get this guy out of your head. You try to…
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20 Cutting Questions To Ask Your Partner That Will Deepen Your Connection
In this age of endless connection, we are more disconnected than ever and most relationships don’t go very far beyond the surface. Maybe it’s because we hold ourselves back or maybe it’s because we no longer have the tools to genuinely connect, like face-to-face and via conversation. In order to build the foundation for a…
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Why People Pleasers Often Have Low Self-Esteem
This is why people-pleasers often have low self-esteem. Not because they lack confidence altogether, but because they lack the self-respect it takes to be truly self-assertive. They’re not okay just being themselves. They feel safest when tending to the needs of others, and deeply uncomfortable with the quiet, reflective space required to tune into their…
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10 Things Women Who Value Their Self-Worth Do In Their Relationships
Here are ten things people with high self-esteem do differently in their relationships...
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The Day I Stopped Begging For Love And Started Choosing Myself
Sabrina Alexis Bendory is the author of Detached and You’re Overthinking It. Sabrina specializes in helping people build unshakable self-worth, break unhealthy patterns, and attract the love they deserve Oh what a day that will be! The day when you are free and realize you are worth SO much more than what you were about…
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The True Reason Men Cheat That Has Little To Do With You
So here is the real reason why men cheat...