Sabrina Bendory

I have been writing about relationships and giving relationship advice for over a decade now, which is kind of surreal and makes me feel very old.

In this day and age where “ghosting” has become an acceptable form of breaking up (maybe not acceptable, let’s go with widely practiced instead), with endless dating apps where a guy can find someone shiny and new with a few…

Let’s talk about some habits and mindsets that are sabotaging you from getting the love you want. The path to finding love is filled with misconceptions thanks to movies and mainstream media.

Anxiety is a pervasive problem in general, and of course, it’s going to come out in relationships because relationships hit every emotional sore spot inside of us and there is a lot at stake.

No one makes it a goal to be single forever. We all want love; we all want a partner to share our lives with.

This is excerpt from You’re Overthinking It: Find Lifelong Love By Being Your True Self by Sabrina Alexis Bendory, published by Thought Catalog Books (January 2023).

1. Compliments No man will ever come right out and tell you he likes it when you compliment him because it’s a weird thing to ask for, and also not very “manly,” if you will.

Will sleeping with a guy too soon make him instantly lose interest and head for the hills? It is an age-old debate with no concrete answer.

Here’s a situation I’ve definitely found myself in and I’m sure you can relate. You meet someone, something clicks, and suddenly a force takes you over.

I don’t know what the biggest relationship issue was before the invention of smart phones, but in this digital day and age the culprit behind most issues and confusions is texting.

Every single girl will at some point find herself asking this question: is there no one out there for me or am I the problem?

Sometimes we are our own worst enemies and sabotage our chances of getting what we really want. Relationships, careers, fitness…we can derail ourselves in all areas of life.

The road to enlightenment is paved with mistakes made along the way… and boy did I make them all!

While it’s much easier to blame other people for everything that goes wrong… sometimes it’s us. Sometimes we’re the problem, we’re the toxic ones. Eek. There’s a truth no one really wants to admit. First, it’s OK.

Here is a common relationship misconception: A lot of people believe they will get what they give.

Relationships fall apart all the time for various reasons — cheating, jealousy, distance, or sometimes it just isn’t a match. Sometimes, things are beyond our control.

Ever notice that the guys you really want don’t seem to want you at the same level… and yet you easily and effortlessly attract the guys you don’t really want? It’s confusing and frustrating.

If you’ve been dumped, it’s natural to want to make him regret his decision. I’m assuming you want to make him regret leaving you because you want him back.