Shahida Arabi
Shahida is a graduate of Harvard University and Columbia University. She is a published researcher and author of Power: Surviving and Thriving After Narcissistic Abuse and Breaking Trauma Bonds with Narcissists and Psychopaths. Her books have been translated into 16+ languages all over the world. Her work has been featured on Salon, HuffPost, Inc., Bustle, Psychology Today, Healthline, VICE, NYDaily News and more. For more inspiration and insight on manipulation and red flags, follow her on Instagram here.
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Narcissistic Rage: This Is What Happens When You ‘Discard’ An Abusive Narcissist First
They may romanticize the relationship and re-idealize you, taking back all their hurtful words and actions in one fell swoop (or cleverly constructed text message).
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Dear Abuser: I Am The Revolution You Never Expected
I am the truth, your karma, the revolt — I am the resistance, the pieces you tried to keep shattered, coming back together again.
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The Pathological Envy Of Narcissists Reveals How Powerful Their Victims Are
Survivors have to regain the certainty that the reason they experienced such a pathological reaction was because they were so powerful in the first place.
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10 Life-Changing Truths Abuse Survivors Should Embrace
You don’t have to justify to anyone the reasons you didn’t leave right away.
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5 Damaging Lies We Learn From Narcissistic Parents
Falsehoods about parents always being loving and having our best interests at heart simply do not cut it when it comes to manipulative, toxic and abusive parents.
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7 Spiritual Ideas That Enable Abuse And Shame The Victim
Philosophies that depict pain as an illusion rather than a legitimate, lived reality can be downright dangerous. They encourage victim-blaming and spiritual bypassing that harms the survivor more than they help. What we have to remember is that our perceptions of trauma are not due to erroneous thinking – they are due to egregiously damaging…
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Five Ways We Rationalize Abuse And Why We Need To Stop
The abuse cycle relies on hot and cold, mean and sweet behavior, which means nice actions after an abusive incident cannot be taken at face value, but rather as embedded in a chronic pattern of behavior.
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Remember That Time You Emotionally Abused Me?
Leaving was not easy but it was also too easy
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Read This During The Worst Moments Of Your Life
Read this when your heart is aching and your spirit is broken, when you're on your knees, depleted and defeated.
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20 Diversion Tactics Highly Manipulative Narcissists, Sociopaths And Psychopaths Use To Silence You
Gaslighting is perhaps one of the most insidious manipulative tactics out there because it works to distort and erode your sense of reality; it eats away at your ability to trust yourself and inevitably disables you from feeling justified in calling out abuse and mistreatment.
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The Real Reason Why We Love Bad Boys, Toxic Partners and Emotionally Unavailable Men
We can become addicted to the highs and lows of dangerous romantic relationships in a way that makes a break-up from a toxic person similar to rehab from a destructive drug addiction.
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The Love Story Of A Narcissist And His Victim
He ties his words around you like a corset, fashioning you into his soulmate. Fast-forwarding intimacy on all levels, he plays the victim, weaving a sad story about betrayal by his previous partner who you will later come to learn is also a victim.
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The Secret Language Of Narcissists, Sociopaths And Psychopaths: How Abusers Manipulate Their Victims
These pathological individuals walk among us every day in their false masks, often unseen and unnoticed because of how eerily normal they are.
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5 Powerful Self-Care Tips For Abuse And Trauma Survivors
Contrary to popular opinion, asking for help does not make you helpless or powerless.
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5 Sneaky Things Narcissists Do To Take Advantage Of You
It’s important in any kind of relationship that we learn to identify the red flags when interacting with people who display malignant narcissism and/or antisocial traits, so we can better protect ourselves from exploitation and abuse, set appropriate boundaries with others, and make informed decisions about who we keep in our lives.
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10 Habits Of Extremely Toxic Friends (And Why You’re Better Off Without Them)
If you rarely get a chance to have a reciprocal conversation with a person, you're acting as their audience to a monologue and not as a friend. You also deserve to be listened to and deserve to talk about any problems in your life.
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10 Ways To Strengthen Your Self-Care And Self-Love Practices
Being grateful shouldn't be set aside for the holidays; it should be a way of life.