Shahida Arabi
Graduate of Columbia and Harvard
Bestselling Author
Published Researcher
Shahida Arabi is a graduate of Columbia University and Harvard University. She is a published researcher on narcissism and the bestselling author of Becoming the Narcissist’s Nightmare: How to Devalue and Discard the Narcissist While Supplying Yourself, featured as a #1 Amazon Bestseller for 16 consecutive months after its release, and Power: Surviving and Thriving After Narcissistic Abuse, featured as a #1 Amazon Bestseller in Applied Psychology.
Her work has been featured on Salon, HuffPost, Inc., Bustle, Psychology Today, Healthline, VICE, NYDaily News and more.
Her latest book, The Highly Sensitive Person’s Guide to Dealing with Toxic People, is available in all major bookstores and has been translated into 16 languages. At Harvard, she conducted the first large-scale research study on PTSD and relationship partners with narcissistic and psychopathic traits.
In addition to being a high-traffic journalist featured on numerous popular magazines and websites as well as an internationally bestselling author, Shahida has eight years of extensive experience in marketing, content creation, editing, and bringing viral organic traffic for media brands and businesses across social media platforms such as Instagram, Facebook, TikTok, YouTube, and more. She is a sought after influencer and writer for brands related to wellness, psychology, health, education, and pop culture.
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Real love and compassion aren’t about forgiving and forgetting your way through numerous transgressions, violations or betrayals. The most compassionate thing you can do for a toxic person is to hold them accountable for changing their harmful behaviors – and the most compassionate thing you can do for yourself is letting them go if they do not.
Shahida Arabi, Power: Surviving and Thriving After Narcissistic Abuse
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If They’re Slowly Draining Your Confidence, You Might Be Dating A Narcissist
Here are some of the most common micro-betrayals narcissistic partners can subject their victims to.
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If You’re The Child Of A Narcissistic Parent, Read This
Here are some powerful steps you can take to re-parent yourself if you were the child of a narcissistic parent. The second one is my personal favorite.
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The 6-Step Cycle That Keeps You Addicted to a Narcissistic Partner
Here are the six stages of trauma bonding you may have experienced:
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Why Narcissists Beg You To “Take the High Road”
As a researcher specializing in narcissism and psychopathy, I’ve heard thousands of horror stories from survivors who’ve been in toxic relationships with narcissists and psychopaths.
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This Is Why Narcissists Love Making You Feel Jealous
It’s been long said that narcissists love creating love triangles and provoking jealousy in their partners – thousands of partners of narcissistic and psychopathic individuals have shared their experiences on this phenomenon.
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5 Reality Checks You Need After Narcissistic Abuse
1. No, they have not changed nor are they likely to change. As a researcher who also writes about psychologically abusive relationships, I frequently get letters from survivors asking me if it’s possible for an abusive, narcissistic partner to change.
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If Your Friend Does These 10 Toxic Things, They May Be A Narcissist
1. They are not happy for your accomplishments. When you mention your success, your friend’s face goes automatically sour. She may look like she’s eaten an entire lemon as she struggles to say congratulations.
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This Type of Therapy Is Quietly Changing Lives
If you have a history of problems with self-harm, suicidal ideation, chronic suicide attempts or extreme and overwhelming emotions, you may want to consider speaking to a counselor about Dialectical Behavior Therapy.
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If You’ve Ever Wondered “Am I the Problem?” Read This
One of the most popular questions I receive from survivors of narcissistic abuse is, “But what if I am the narcissist?
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6 Behaviors Trauma Survivors Understand (That Most People Miss)
Here are six behaviors “high-functioning” trauma survivors will understand deeply:
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5 Concrete Signs You’re Not In Love, You’re Trauma Bonded
Here are five signs you need to look out for to know that you're not in love, you're "just" trauma-bonded.
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How To Respond To A Narcissist’s Jealousy
A narcissist’s pathological envy arises from their need to be the best, their excessive sense of entitlement to being the center of attention at all times, with the most fame, wealth, and status.
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11 Phrases They’re Using To Gaslight You
It’s important to consider the context of when, why, and how these phrases are used so we can better identify manipulation and resist self-blame when it is unwarranted.
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What Narcissistic Sabotage Looks Like (And How to Protect Yourself)
On a larger scale, they ruin entire lives.
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10 Ways To Strengthen Self-Love
1. Remove the clutter from your life. This includes physical, emotional, and interpersonal clutter which only serves to detract you from focusing on your personal growth.
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10 Powerful Signs Your Dark Feminine Energy Has Awakened
You exude a confident and magnetic “royalty” energy.
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According To Psychology, These 3 Tests Reveal A Narcissists True Colors
Here are the three biggest “tests” you can use to reveal a narcissist’s true colors, according to a researcher.
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Why Silence Becomes A Weapon In A Narcissistic Relationship
Have you ever been silenced by a toxic person’s silent treatment? You may have experienced what is known as “stonewalling.”