Shahida Arabi
Shahida is a graduate of Harvard University and Columbia University. She is a published researcher and author of Power: Surviving and Thriving After Narcissistic Abuse and Breaking Trauma Bonds with Narcissists and Psychopaths. Her books have been translated into 16+ languages all over the world. Her work has been featured on Salon, HuffPost, Inc., Bustle, Psychology Today, Healthline, VICE, NYDaily News and more. For more inspiration and insight on manipulation and red flags, follow her on Instagram here.
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What Avoidant Personality Disorder Really Is, And What To Know If You Think You Have It
Avoidance of social interactions and intimate relationships. Excessive feelings of low self-esteem, shame and inadequacy. Withdrawal from situations where one is likely to be criticized. Hypersensitivity to rejection. These are just some of the traits of Avoidant Personality Disorder. But it goes beyond just anxiety or shyness.
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11 Things I Learned About Narcissists And Sociopaths By Age 27 – That I Wish Everyone Knew
The malignant narcissists and sociopaths who walk among you are probably people you know and like – and if you haven’t personally been victimized by them, you’re none the wiser.
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7 Things People Don’t Realize You’re Doing Because You’re The Child Of A Narcissistic Parent
We forget to give ourselves permission to dislike someone, to address conflict, to confront issues, or even just to acknowledge when someone has reached epic levels of douchebaggery.
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Why Do People Believe Narcissists Rather Than Their Victims?
The truth is that narcissists are very adept at impression management – in managing the ways others perceive them. They will appear to praise their victims in public, all while criticizing and demeaning them in private. They will provoke their victims into emotionally reacting – and they will use their reactions to the abuse to…
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This Is When She’ll Leave You – And Never Look Back
She'll leave when she's finally had enough. And when she walks away, she'll walk away for good.
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The Real Reason You ‘Miss’ The Narcissist – And What You Should Remember When You Do
Ask yourself: which moments am I romanticizing? Which moments am I forgetting? I’ll bet that if you look closely, you won’t just remember those romantic trips and dates, but also the crazymaking arguments preceding them. If you reevaluate all those times they bought you flowers and gifts, you’ll also remember the countless times you cried…
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11 Sickening Signs You’re Dealing With A Sneaky Female Narcissist
The narcissistic female’s rage is not unlike the narcissistic man’s in intensity, but because of social stigma surrounding female anger, the narcissistic female may communicate her rage in more subtle ways.
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24 Powerful Valentine’s Day Reminders If You’re Healing From A Toxic Relationship With A Narcissist
"Love isn't supposed to be painful. Let yourself feel whatever it is you feel and get through it - there is joy to be had. Loneliness is not a good reason to invite toxic people back into your life."
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27 Survivors Reveal The Sickest, Most Twisted Thing A Narcissist Did To Manipulate Them
We all know that malignant narcissists like to provoke, taunt and destroy people - all with clean hands. But what are some of the sneakiest ways they manipulate and terrorize their victims? I asked over a hundred survivors what the most insidious way a narcissist has abused them and the answers were shocking.
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This Is What It REALLY Means To Go No Contact With An Abusive Narcissist
No Contact is the key that locks out that person from ever entering our heart, mind, and spirit in any palpable way again.
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Covert Narcissists Use These 3 Sneaky Techniques To Disarm And Demean You
They engage in what I like to call "coded language."
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The Most Powerful Women Are Always The Ones You Don’t See Coming
These women may be browbeaten, bullied, shamed, criticized, disempowered in many ways, by many different people – but one thing they all have in common is their ability to rise again from the ashes of their adversity.
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What If You’re The Narcissist?
If you've ever asked yourself if you're the one who's a narcissist, you may want to read this.
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The Dark Side Of Being An Empath: 5 Powerful Ways The Highly Sensitive Experience The World Differently
Empaths are not all “light and love.” Far from it. Many struggle with depression, anxiety, various addictions and self-doubt due to their high sensitivity and receptiveness to taking on the emotions of others.
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13 Reasons Why: The Real Reasons Hannah Baker Committed Suicide Are Much More Complex Than You Think
The real reasons Hannah Baker committed suicide are much more complex than you might think.
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5 Disturbing Ways Narcissists Use Social Media To Terrorize You
Social media has been blamed for breeding narcissists, but the fact of the matter is, narcissists have always existed. Social media has just given them an extra tool to terrorize people.
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7 Ways To Turn On An Alpha Woman – Without Even Touching Her
Alpha women do not tend to settle down easily nor do they settle for just anyone. This is the type of woman who isn’t afraid to be alone – so if she’s spending her time with you, it can be quite the compliment. But what actually turns an alpha woman on – and captures her…