Sabrina Bendory

So you were dating a guy… or maybe still in the “talking phase” and he seemed super into you. And you like him too which makes it even better! And just when you were starting to get excited about the possibilities of what lay ahead … he seems to be losing interest. Or maybe he…

Breakups are hard enough, but when your ex keeps coming back but doesn’t seem to want you back it can be crushing. It could be an ex-boyfriend or an ex-situation-whatever, either way it hurts and it messes with your mind. Maybe he starts commenting on your social media accounts, maybe he shoots you friendly texts once…

I have been writing about relationships and giving relationship advice for over a decade now, which is kind of surreal and makes me feel very old. One thing I hear again and again is: I wish someone told me this sooner! No one prepares us for navigating dating and relationships. They don’t include that in…

If you’ve been dumped, it’s natural to want to make him regret his decision. I’m assuming you want to make him regret leaving you because you want him back. Or maybe you want him to suffer a little bit, fair enough. I get where your head’s at. Missing someone isn’t enough of a reason to…

Ever notice that the guys you really want don’t seem to want you at the same level… and yet you easily and effortlessly attract the guys you don’t really want? It’s confusing and frustrating. Clearly, you have redeeming qualities because there are some guys who want to date you… it just doesn’t seem to be…

Relationships fall apart all the time for various reasons — cheating, jealousy, distance, or sometimes it just isn’t a match. Sometimes, things are beyond our control. Sometimes the timing just isn’t right, sometimes we just can’t make it work because there is too much fundamental incompatibility. But other times, it is under our control. We…

Here is a common relationship misconception: A lot of people believe they will get what they give. So you invest in him with your whole heart, you prioritize him, you give it your all, and you expect that he’ll do the same… but usually, the opposite happens.  He continues to throw bare minimum scraps your…

While it’s much easier to blame other people for everything that goes wrong… sometimes it’s us. Sometimes we’re the problem, we’re the toxic ones. Eek. There’s a truth no one really wants to admit. First, it’s OK. Pretty much everyone goes through a period of being a little toxic and this isn’t a final destination.…

The road to enlightenment is paved with mistakes made along the way… and boy did I make them all! So much so that I created a career writing about relationships, and my personal experiences gave me so much more insights than a Ph.D. ever could! One comment I hear over and over again is, “I…

Sometimes we are our own worst enemies and sabotage our chances of getting what we really want. Relationships, careers, fitness…we can derail ourselves in all areas of life. It’s a hard reality to confront … when there’s no one to blame. I’ve been writing about relationships for years and can’t help but notice patterns in…

Every single girl will at some point find herself asking this question: is there no one out there for me or am I the problem? Being single is not a curse (in fact, there are some very lovely perks to living the single life), but it isn’t exactly something people aspire to.

I don’t know what the biggest relationship issue was before the invention of smart phones, but in this digital day and age the culprit behind most issues and confusions is texting. Women can’t seem to understand why guys take so long to text back and men are either oblivious to all the turmoil their texts…

Overthinking in relationships can be a silent destroyer, turning every word, gesture, or delay in response into a potential disaster. It’s easy to get trapped in a cycle of doubt, where you start questioning everything, from your partner’s feelings to your own worth. However, with some conscious effort and strategies, you can break free from…

Here’s a situation I’ve definitely found myself in and I’m sure you can relate. You meet someone, something clicks, and suddenly a force takes you over. After this encounter you can’t–for the life of you–get this guy out of your head. You try to think about other things, but nothing works. You ruminate over every…

1. Compliments No man will ever come right out and tell you he likes it when you compliment him because it’s a weird thing to ask for, and also not very “manly,” if you will. But just because he doesn’t ask, doesn’t mean he doesn’t crave. Men also feel insecure about their physical appearance, and…

This is excerpt from You’re Overthinking It: Find Lifelong Love By Being Your True Self by Sabrina Alexis Bendory, published by Thought Catalog Books (January 2023). One of the biggest relationship mistakes I see women make is stressing over their relationship, whether it’s in the dating stage or in a more established relationship. The stressing…