Sabrina Bendory

This article is an exclusive chapter excerpt from 10 Things Every Woman Needs to Know About Men. Ask ten women what they want in a guy and you’ll get ten different answers.

Girls think that playing hard to get will make a guy like them, and being too available will turn him off. This isn’t true.

There are many differences between men and women, both in the way we’re designed physically and the way we process things emotionally. And I’m sure you’ve noticed that the way we view relationships is also very different.

Sometimes I wonder how certain situations would have unfolded had I learned certain lessons a bit sooner. Since I can’t go back and undo what’s been done, I’m going to share the relationship lessons I wish I’d known sooner.

They say experience is the greatest teacher and if my dating experience has taught me anything, it’s that there are certain types of guys who always spell trouble.

Relationships are really quite simple when you understand the core dynamics at play. When you don’t, however, you can drive yourself half insane trying to figure it all out.

It doesn’t matter what other people think of you, it’s the thoughts you have about yourself that make all the difference.

The guys who liked me were the ones who clearly liked me.

If it’s a good relationship, if you connect and genuinely get and appreciate each other, then it will just happen. And you won’t even feel that anxiety that comes from not knowing.

If you woke up tomorrow with no fear, what would you do first?

I mean, there is a lot at stake when you put your heart on the line and you can end up wasting months, or years, of your life on a man who never intended to keep you around for the long haul.

Someone may be perfect for you, but they still won’t be a perfect person. And you’re not a perfect person. And the relationship won’t be perfect

Being in a relationship shouldn’t be your end-goal, the goal should be attaining the right relationship.

Men don’t cheat because they’re scumbags or scoundrels. It’s not because they can’t control themselves and oftentimes it’s not because they no longer desire you .

When both partners see the good in one another and feel appreciative, the relationship is filled with love, connection, and harmony.

No one makes it a goal to be single forever. We all want love; we all want a partner to share our lives with.

Just because people feel strongly for each other doesn’t always mean they can be together.

Being miserable is a combination of how you live your life and how you process the inevitable things that happen. A lot of us don’t even realize all the ways we’re creating our own misery.