Timing’s A Bitch

Here’s the thing about timing – it can either make or break you.

We all have that story. Boy likes girl. Girl sees boy as her best friend and nothing more. Boy stops liking girl. Girl falls for boy.

Here’s the thing about timing – you either have it or you don’t.

It’s easy to replay the choices we’ve made. To think about them – over and over again.

To lose ourselves in the what ifs. To convince ourselves that we can magically go back to a simpler time.

I wish it was that easy. Black and white.

But, here’s also the thing. We friend zoned them for a specific reason.

We weren’t rash in our choices. We thought about them. Possibly too much. They were our best friends. We wanted so desperately to be into them. But, we chose to remain friends. For whatever reason, we decided we didn’t want them.

As human beings we’re wired to want what we can’t have.

So trust your instinct.

Realize you were right in your reasons.

Maybe the timing wasn’t right. OR maybe you never really loved him. You loved the idea of him. The idea of the best friend who knew everything about you – the good, the bad, the ugly – and could still love you. You craved what you couldn’t have. It was never really love, always only lust.