37 Men Share Secret Sex Tips That Will Make Her Cum Every Time
“Nibble on the earlobe. All the women I've been with, it's driven them crazy.”
1. Fuck like it’s EVIL. Kiss like it’s LOVE.
“Fuck like it’s EVIL. Kiss like it’s LOVE.”
2. Fuck like you’re in love with the other person in that moment.
“Fuck like you’re in love with the other person in that moment.”
3. Nibble on the earlobe.
“Nibble on the earlobe. All the women I’ve been with, it’s driven them crazy.”
4. Warm up the oven before you put in the bun.
“You gotta warm up the oven before you put in the bun.”
5. Communicate.
“Here’s my One Weird Trick That Gets All the Ladies Off: Communication.”
6. When you go down on a woman, go the fuck down.
“When you go down on a woman, go the fuck down. Do not lick it just a bit, deep French kiss that thing.”
7. When she says ‘right there,’ don’t speed up, don’t slow down. Be right there.
“Be present in the moment. Pay attention to body language. When she says ‘right there,’ don’t speed up, don’t slow down. Be right there.”
8. You don’t always have to fuck her hard.
“You don’t always have to fuck her hard. In fact, sometimes that’s not right to do. Sometimes you’ve got to make some love. And fuckin’ give her some smoochies, too.”
9. Lick the alphabet!
“Lick the alphabet!”
10. Don’t forget cardio.
“Don’t forget cardio when you hit the gym. Looking good is great, but if you run out of gas before the finish line, it’s not something to add to the resume.”
11. Use your pelvic bone to rub her clit.
“Use your pelvic bone to rub her clit. Simple. Effective. Fun.”
12. When eating a girl out, squirt a little lemon juice on your tongue.
“When eating a girl out, squirt a little lemon juice on your tongue. It sounds weird, and maybe painful, but I swear it makes the clitoris and sometimes the vagina itself more sensitive.”
13. When inside of the girl, aim for the belly button.
“For the guys, when inside of the girl, aim for the belly button. Position your hips low and kinda thrust toward the belly button. Guarantee she’ll have an orgasm that’ll leave her legs shaking and she may forget how to talk. Don’t use it often, though, ’cause it’s hard to step up your game from this. More of a once in a while thing.”
14. Use your thumb to softly rub her clitoris.
“While she’s on her back with her legs over your shoulders and you’re on top but kinda on your knees, use your thumb to softly rub her clitoris. I hope that makes sense. It works for my girlfriend. Also, while going down on her put a finger or two in her and gently do the ‘come here’ thing with your fingers while licking her clitoris softly.”
15. Slow down and take your time.
“Sex is a celebration of the amazing things two people can do to and with one another.
It’s not a race. Slow down and take your time. Touch, taste, tease. Laugh, love, rock the shit out each other, and worship in the fact that you’re both alive and together at that moment.
Oh, and for fuck’s sake, use a condom!”
16. Always insist on either finger-banging or performing oral on your girl before penetration.
“Always insist on either finger-banging or performing oral on your girl before penetration. Even if they’re begging for that ole D, you give her some prep work, dammit. It a) preps for penetration, natural lubrication, all that shit; and b) teases the fuck outta her if she wanted penetration right away.
It’s a win-win, man.
Oh and for God’s sake do something with your hands if she’s riding you. No don’t pull out your cellphone and talk to your ‘bros’. Play with her love melons, pull her hair (if she’s into that). Just do something.”
17. Throw a few pillows under that ass of hers.
“With her on her back, throw a few pillows under that ass of hers, then get in there with your D pointing as straight up as you can get it. You should hit her G-spot. That is great for her, and it has a texture that’ll make you bust like a water balloon.”
18. Keep touching her all over the place doing intercourse.
“Keep touching her all over the place doing intercourse. Girl’s entire body is very sensitive during foreplay and sex. Don’t just stick to the pussy and nipples. And relax!”
19. Never touch the clit directly.
“Never touch the clit directly (unless you’re going extreme) its way more sensitive then we men can understand. It’s better to touch the areas around it and apply pressure through the hood. Also the clit is huge but just under a lot of flesh so applying pressure+rotation in most places up there can generally be pretty pleasurable.”
20. Kiss her legs.
“The commonly most ignored areas on a girl’s body. Behind the knees, elbows, back of the thighs, calves. These areas can be rather sensitive and most girls will be surprised that you’d consider them. I’ve usually gotten intense moans and once I’ve gotten a ‘that’s ticklish,’ and we laughed about it and I moved on. So win-win.
Also, my girlfriend of three years jokes that the only reason she stayed with me is because I was the only guy that ever kissed her legs.”
21. Focus on the girl, not yourself.
“I don’t think sex is all that complicated. Guys, if you want to be good in the sack, focus on the girl, not yourself. You will know if she likes what you are doing by the sounds and moves she makes. Focus on her and when she is close you will have held out for so long you will be, too. If it is not a synchronized orgasm it will be pretty close.”
22. Put your hands under her butt while doing missionary.
“Easy, put your hands under her butt while doing missionary. It hits all the good angles for her, clit-stimulation, and won’t feel too shabby for you. I’ve used a pillow, but it feels stupid, hands work way better for control anyways. Also, be perpendicular when going down on her, don’t know why this works.”
23. Be confident.
“Confidence. I don’t mean bullshit confidence ‘yeah baby you like that?’ while you try to pull off some stupid porn star stunt. I mean being willing to laugh, communicate, and take some initiative.
It is about showing desire. Everyone wants to be wanted. If I pick my girlfriend up and slam her against the wall, it is not hot for her because she’s against a wall…it is hot because I couldn’t fucking control myself and this happened to be the first place we landed. Figuring out ways to make that uncontrollable desire transparent always pays off. This is also why sometimes ‘no doesn’t mean no’ but that one requires some prior communication and probably a safeword.”
24. A quick guide to cunnilingus.
“Quick Guide to Cunnilingus
Start slow, making sure to cover all areas top to bottom, but once you start to pick up the pace completely ignore the bottom and go at the clit as directly as she’ll allow. Don’t do that pointed tongue flicking thing unless she asks you to. Think flat. Then put your lips over her clit and gently apply suction as you continue to lick slowly. If you’ve taken your time to work up to this point you’ll know immediately if she likes it and how much suction is best. Then speed up a bit.
Once you start for real on the clit, don’t go anywhere else. Think about if a girl was giving a blowjob really nicely and then just stopped the rhythm to lick your pelvis. You’d be like ‘what are you doing! get back on that!’ Unless she forcibly removes your lips from her clit, don’t stop even as she cums. Lots of women can build to a second or third orgasm without you stopping. Just realize she may be sensitive and don’t do anything dumb.
You can also use your fingers wherever she prefers it, or not at all.
Also don’t expect perfection the first time. Communicate. Practice. Communicate more.”
25. Lick her inner thigh.
“Don’t be afraid to go down on her; that will only make her want you to fuck her even more. Tease her a bit, do some small licks, lick her inner thigh or kiss around the area to make her want it.”
26. Spend time kissing, massaging, and running your fingers gently over her whole body.
“During foreplay don’t just make her boobs and pussy your only two stops. Spend time kissing, massaging, and running your fingers gently over her whole body. Focus on areas she moves or makes noises at. Also communication. Ask her what she wants or likes; it can only help.”
27. Make sure she has an orgasm first
“Make sure she has an orgasm first. However you can accomplish it, cunnilingus, fingering, a combination, or whatever she likes. Do this and you will be invited to have sex again. Be patient. Never rush things.”
28. Tease her via text message before you have sex.
“This worked really well for me:
My girlfriend was having a bad day, and she was going to get a massage after work. She texted me when she got home saying she was going to be out for most of the evening. I responded back with a bit of cyber sex teasing. I asked her what she would do if I were to slowly kiss her from her shoulder to the base of her neck, and slowly up her neck to her ear.
Just planting a little idea. Which she then got to think about while taking a shower, having an hour-long massage, et cetera. Works well, try it.”
29. Ensure that your pubic bone has full contact with her clitoris.
“Missionary position, legs prone, pull yourself up and into her with your arms (helps to have headboard to grab). Steady rate, ensuring your pubic bone has full contact with her clitoris. Dual action, works every time.”
30. Sit up straight on your knees and put her feet on your chest.
“Regular missionary. Sit up straight on your knees and put her feet on your chest. This allows you to hit the G-spot literally with every thrust and you can use your thumb to rub her clit. This has made my SO tear holes in the sheets. WIN.”
31. Throw her legs over your shoulders and fuck her on your knees.
“When you are fucking her in missionary, throw her legs over your shoulders and fuck her on your knees. She will surely orgasm.”
32. Read her body language and you’ll know what to do.
“Read her body language and you’ll know what to do. You can have your ‘techniques,’ but just be hyper aware of how she moves into your touch and respond accordingly. Also, 2-3 fingers, palm facing up, find the contour of the inside ceiling, stroke gently along the wall back toward you, press down gently right above her mons pubis, and when you hear a squishy sound…she’s having a G-spot orgasm. Worked with 5/5 of the last women I’ve dated. Hadn’t happened to them prior to me, so based on experience, it works…”
33. While she is on top, use your thumb to massage her clitoris.
“This one has worked for me in the past, and the wife seems to really enjoy it. While she is on top, use your thumb to massage her clitoris. You have to turn your hand upside down so it looks like you’re giving her ‘gina a thumb-down, but the extra stimulation it will give her is worth it. Given many a girl several orgasms this way and helped land the last woman I will ever give an orgasm. So good luck my friends.”
34. Take it nice and slow and then work to a crescendo.
“When I go down on a girl I take it nice and slow and then work to a crescendo.
Start by rubbing the inside of her thighs in a gentle circular motion, getting closer and closer to the outer parts of the labia. After a minute or two of caressing she should be fairly moist. You can also add small kisses to the thighs also.
I like to move on to licking and kissing around the labia and taint, completely ignoring the clitoris for a while. Sometimes, depending on the girl I’ll even give a little analingus here (not all girls are down for that).
At this point, if you’re doing everything properly she should be writhing somewhat. That’s when I will begin work on the clitoris with my tongue and also apply just the tiniest bit of pressure on the taint and anus with my thumb, just a small bit of massage.
After her first orgasm from clitoral stimulation I like to turn her on her stomach, ask her to arch her back (or you can be a real pro and put a pillow underneath her belly and hips).
Once again I’ll start with rubbing the thighs, legs and now also include the buttocks.
I will then start massaging the clitoris with my hand while also rubbing the area around the anus.
When you think she’s ready use two fingers and begin massaging her G-spot (it’s the mound of nerves just inside her vagina below the pubis) while continuing to rub her clitoris. Again I also recommend licking her anus. You will now have three points of stimulation: anus, clitoris, and G-spot, that are likely to make her a very happy woman. If you want to get fancy you can start going really fast on all three areas then when she is close to orgasm, stop suddenly and start back up again; this is called ramping. The sudden stop and start is pretty intense for some women.
And then of course you fuck her right in the pussy.”
35. Tease.
“Unless time is of the essence, tease. I have a few places I focus on: neck, earlobe, boobs (not the nipples), hips, and groin. These are my prime teasing areas. Linger there before moving on to the nipples or pussy. Nibble. Lick. Suck (not too hard on the neck). Use your hands to stroke and dig in. There’s a lovely spot right beside each of the hipbones (toward the belly button) that you can press with your thumbs.
If you’re gonna pull hair, do it gently at first and make sure you grab as much as you can. If she likes it, pull harder.
When going down, don’t just focus on the clit. Slide your tongue into her, too (this works really well if she’s on all fours). When you focus on the clit, spread her lips with one hand to get better access. Figure out how she likes it: licking with a fat tongue or a pointy one, how hard, etc.
When finger-blasting, don’t make gun noises while jack hammering. Seriously. Don’t. Instead, use the ‘come here’ motion on her G-spot, which is about an inch inside. It feels kind of like the roof of your mouth.
The main event isn’t always the end; remember that. But when it’s happening, roll your hips when you’re in missionary, grinding your pubic bone against her. Use pillows if you have to find the proper angle to rub her G-spot and penetrate deeper.
When you tap out and if she’s still ready to go, feel free to go down on her until your snake is done his siesta.
Some like to talk dirty, some don’t. Make sure before you start or it may kill the mood. You don’t have to be vulgar; it can be as simple as, ‘God you feel amazing’ or ‘I’ve been thinking about doing this to you all day.’
I abide by the philosophy of ‘The wetter the better.’ Before you penetrate, make sure she’s wetter than a rainstorm. Some girls don’t get as wet, so you might need lube. Just keep this in mind: chafing isn’t fun. Make sure she’s ready.
36. Foreplay. Foreplay foreplay foreplay foreplay foreplay.
“Foreplay. Foreplay foreplay foreplay foreplay foreplay.
Just like a guy needs to be hard, a girl needs to be wet. For both genders, pay attention to just behind the earlobes, anywhere on the neck (most commonly the lower parts and the back), collarbones, wrists, and hip/thigh areas. I’ve also found that a soft breath in the ear while having your hands elsewhere works as well.
Use fingertips and nails. Light touches that can raise goosebumps are always a good thing. If you are ticklish or tickle your partner, good. Giggling like that can help lighten up the mood. Soft kisses are another good idea, especially if you’re planning on going down on the other person. Drag your tongue down their stomach, or whatever feels good to them.
Missionary style? A pillow underneath her lower back for beginners. If she’s ready for something deeper, hold her legs up. From here the guy can put them on his shoulders, or he can hold them up and lean back for a different angle.
Doggy? Girls, make sure you keep your knees somewhat stable. Find the one angle that feels the best and keep it there. Guys, grab her ass. Spank her if she’s into it. Drag your nails down her back. Pull her hair. Girls, not everyone gets off from purely vaginal. Don’t be afraid to help yourself along.
For another awesome, deep position, try the end of a bed or something of a similar height. Somewhere that if the guy is either kneeling or standing and the girl is lying down, the guy’s penis lines up perfectly (or almost). Guys, you’ll have the perfect spot to go to town on. Grab her hips. Play with her nipples. Girls, again, don’t be afraid to help yourself along.
One last tip—lube. Honestly, sometimes girls don’t secrete enough. Or you’ve been going for too long and the condom is starting to hurt the girl. Grab a bottle of lube. The slipperier the slide, the better the ride.”
37. How to paint a cunnilingual masterpiece.
“If you’re giving a girl head, make sure she’s exceptionally comfortable (and warm, girls are shit at being cold). Relaxed, not nervous, etc. You’re on top, kissy, neck kissy, play with boobs, nipple kissy, hands wander down thighs. Try to make your way down seductively, kissing her little belly, don’t slip and wind her, that’d be a dreadful start.
What I’ve found to work in the past is a huge buildup, avoiding her ‘hoo-ha’ for ages, then tease with your tongue all around down there, avoiding her clit and not going inside, like licking inside of her thighs, the ‘crease’ that’s there, right up to beside her clit, but don’t breach the border. Couple of really hot breaths on it, she knows you’re near.
Lick above the entrance and inside the lips, but avoid the clit like it’s the flake in the ice-cream cone you’re saving for last. Feel free to dribble on it, though….
Eventually when you touch base with her clit, have a buildup of saliva at the end of your tongue and sssslllllowly press against it, like the saliva is touching for a few seconds even before your tongue puts any pressure on it. Then a few wee circles, making sure to get underneath it if at all possible, a bit of light sucking never goes amiss.
Then when she’s distracted with all of that nonsense, (presuming her tap’s turned on), slip a sneaky finger a tiny bit inside, barely noticeable apart from the fact that you’ve grazed the roof with the ‘come hither’ motion.
*The Come Hither motion is based on coaxing someone toward you with a ‘c’mere’ action with your fingers. Or, in layman’s terms, getting the bit of Nutella out of the jar with your fingers.
Increase the depth, slowly but surely, with every finger action. Then, when you’ve reached halfway in, go in fully on the next insertion (making sure to bring the finger the whole way out every time). But don’t just pull it out into thin air every time—as you come out, stay pressed against the vagina and come in from just above the opening (which, from the inside, would be the roof on the outside), so when you pull out you’re still touching. Albeit while your tongue-clit stimulation is still in progress.
With your finger, after you’ve gone fully in for the first time -a few times—throw in finger number 2, keeping the ‘come hither’ motion with both, grazing that rough roof on the way out every time. Don’t scratch now, just pressed fingertips as you pull out.
As things heat up, tongue aquaflipping the shit out of Ms. Clit, a finger variation is to have the 2 inside—in the come hither stance—instead of coming in and out, leave them inside, try vibrate your whole hand, making the fingers buzz slightly up and down against the roof.
Tongue actions on ‘El Clit’—try to vary it. If you stick your tongue out as far as you can, try touch your own chin. Like now, do it. The end of the tongue that’s not touching your chin (i.e. closest to your top teeth), use that on the clit with a pressing motion, that way the rest of your tongue can fiddle around between the clit and meatcave.
Purse your lips, stick a tiny bit of tongue out, but a rigid tongue, not flat. Depending on the girl and her preference for pressure, this can give a good hard flick job.
Make a ‘U’ shape with your now exhausted tongue. Build up some saliva at the end. Press lightly against clit so it’s cupped inside. Suck the saliva back in, it’s kinda cold, bit of contrast for the young gal.
Make a gun with your 2 now best-friend fingers; don’t bother sticking your thumb up as the thing you go ‘click click’ with though. Unless you want to. If she’s absolutely soaking (if not, this’ll just hurt her probably), press both fingertips on the clit and rub side to side like you’d rub a stain off a table, nice and fast-like. If she’s nice and drippy you can go 90.
Cheeky tip (pun intended, you’ll see) Lick the thumb of the hand you haven’t used yet (aw poor guy), and press it lightly against her butthole. All the while your tongue and fingers are putting in their 9-5 on the wriggly young lady of which you you’ve painted your cunnilingual masterpiece.”
