Holly Riordan

Your forever person might not know the right steps to take to calm you down when you’re spiraling — but that doesn’t mean they are never going to understand your anxiety.

The end of your relationship isn’t the end of your happiness. In fact, you’re going to feel better shedding yourself from the wrong relationship than you would have felt fighting for the wrong relationship. 

Every time you reach a new goal, you’ll stop stressing about old things, but you’ll have new things to stress about.

Leo – You need to change your focus. You need to stop pouring all your energy into the wrong people and pursuits. 

You don’t know how to tell friends you aren’t interested in hanging out, even though you don’t have any other plans, because you would rather sit by yourself in an empty room.

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You shouldn’t wait for him forever because it’s not fair for you to be the one waiting, the one chasing, the one pouring all your love into him.

Maybe one day, you can add him back. Maybe one day, you can be friends again. But not right now. Right now, you need to keep your distance from him. You need to look out for yourself.

When you burn yourself out, it’s a warning sign you need to start doing something differently.

You don’t keep a tally of how many times your person has washed the dishes this week versus how many times you’ve done the laundry this week. You don’t count up their ‘failings’ in order to hold it over their head the next time you have an argument.

You don’t let the relationship seem one-sided. You don’t let their feelings seem one-sided.

No one is one-hundred percent confident one-hundred percent of the time.

Don’t push away people who care about you. Don’t assume everyone else hates you as much as you hate yourself. Don’t assume they’re only being nice to you out of pity.

Everyone has baggage. Everyone has bad habits. But not everyone talks about how grueling it is to heal yourself from them.

No matter how hard you fight for your relationship, it’s never going to last if you’re the only one putting in effort, the only one who cares whether or not you stay together. 

She doesn’t want to compete with your phone for your attention.

If you wake up in the morning with a list in your head — feed the dog, do the laundry, run on the treadmill, work eight hours, go grocery shopping — then you’re going to feel overwhelmed. You’re going to want to keep smashing snooze. You’re not going to look forward to the day ahead of you.

You should never try to shoulder your burdens alone because you’re only making things harder on yourself – and you’re damaging your relationship in the process.