Holly Riordan

Remember, you can forgive a toxic human while still recognizing that you're better off without them.  

You decided not to talk to me anymore. You decided our ‘relationship’ was over. But you don’t get to decide if it starts again.

When you're texting them, you're given the chance to develop a relationship that goes deeper than the superficial level. You're able to really get to know them.

When you love someone, you should be there for them, no matter what emotion they are experiencing. You shouldn't run away when they get too real with you. You shouldn't flee at the first sign of genuine emotion. You shouldn't make them feel like they are too clingy or dramatic or annoying, simply for sharing…

Without effort, your relationship is going to fall apart, so make sure you're playing your part. And make sure you aren't settling for someone who refuses to do theirs.

Tell him how you feel because you deserve the chance to move forward -- or move on.

It's okay to move slowly. It's okay if you need some time before trusting someone new when the last person shattered your heart. It's okay if you aren't ready to be so vulnerable again so soon.

You should be able to tell your forever person when you feel on the verge of breaking down. Or when you feel too overwhelmed to put anything else on your plate. You should be able to tell your forever person what is going on inside of you, because sometimes, appearances lie. Sometimes, even the people…

You need to hold out for someone who shares responsibilities with you. Someone who helps you out when they see how much pressure you've been under, how much stress has been weighing you down.

Sometimes, being single really is for the best, because your heart is in the process of healing. Because you're putting your energy toward working on yourself. Because you're trying to get yourself back into a good, healthy place.

It's hard to accept the connection you've built is only temporary.

A lack of effort will make your person feel unloved, unwanted, unappreciated.

You can’t stop yourself from thinking about him -- but you can stop yourself from texting him.

You shouldn't have been an asshole to someone you expected to stay. 

Make her coffee to drink as soon as she wakes up.

Play the big spoon some nights -- and the little spoon other nights.