18 Tiny ‘Firsts’ That Prove You’ve Grown Up More Than You Think You Have

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The first time you encounter a financial hurdle and you’re able to overcome it without borrowing, begging or stealing from someone else.

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The first time you outgrow a friendship and can move on from it cordially, without hurt feelings or bad blood.

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The first time you face a major disappointment or rejection and don’t internalize the message ‘I am a complete failure.’

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The first time you’re able to offer your family members practical or emotional support, instead of the other way around.

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The first time someone you respect disagrees with a choice you’ve made but you stand by it, because you’re confident about what’s best for you.

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The first time you experience a period of loneliness and you take the initiative to build a new community for yourself.

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The first time you go through a brutal breakup and your life doesn’t fall apart alongside it.

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The first time you’re being mistreated at work and you stand up for yourself fairly but assertively.

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The first time you’re able to offer someone a place to stay, a financial loan or any other means of practical support that you’ve never had a surplus of before.

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The first time you get sick and are able to nurse yourself back to health (instead of calling on others to take care of you).

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The first time you admit that you need help and ask for it without feeling like it makes you a failure.

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The first time you make a significant mistake and you take full responsibility for your actions instead of shifting the blame.

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The first time you find yourself planning a future with a decent good human being who actually treats you right.

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The first time you see an ex move on with someone else and you don’t handle it by going on a self-destructive rampage.

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The first time you hold someone else’s baby and realize, ‘I could maybe possibly raise one of these things and not accidentally kill it by age two.’

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The first time you choose Kale instead of Doritos at the grocery store because you’re slowly realizing that your metabolism just isn’t what it used to be.

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The first time you leave a fun night out to go sleep because you have things to get done the next day and don’t want to be hungover while doing them.

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The first time you recognize that you’re still incredibly young and have a lot of mistakes ahead of you – but you find that notion empowering rather than terrifying. Because you trust yourself to steer through every one of them and come out the other side stronger.