To Ache, To Love, To Let Go, And To Love All Over Again
My dad’s toast at my sister’s wedding echoes in my mind “All a father could want for his daughter is for someone to love them!”But daddy what about a woman who loves herself?
I stayed up way too late last night writing and thinking about how some days I want to lose myself in love
and some days I want to book a trip to Italy by myself and drink wine and eat pasta and marvel at old fountains and cobblestone streets
ache in a solitude that shares a border with lonely.
Something in me is opening, changing
I no longer think I need to wrap myself in a pink ribbon, make myself pretty
be what people expect me to be
squeeze into a box small enough for a man who can provide me with a safe and comfortable life but never asks about my art.
My dad’s toast at my sister’s wedding echoes in my mind
“All a father could want for his daughter is for someone to love them!”
But daddy
what about a woman
who loves herself?
I think in this life I’ll love and let go
and love and let go
many times.
I’ll fall in love with people, cities, books of prose, the kids I work with
and myself
when I’m topless by the creek with a book a boy lent me while we drank beer and talked about poetry
and myself
when I’m hanging art in my first one bedroom apartment that is all mine and no one else’s
and later that night when I’m eating Thai food in the bathtub
burning candles, scraping wax off the bathroom tile.
I’ll lose myself in love until my heart cracks open
surrender to the cycle of
bloom and die and bloom and die.
It’s March and today felt like spring
but tomorrow it will snow
it’s okay
summer has been inside of me all along.
I want to get lost in it all
to ache, to love, to let go
and then to love all over again.