50 Things That Are Going To Turn Her Off, Not Make Her Sleep With You

By Thought Catalog Updated January 12, 2024

12. Claiming to be an “Alpha” or putting other people down.

Trashing other people is just lame. There’s a hundred conversations we could have and you wanna talk about the waitresses’ weight? And the alpha bullshit is, to borrow a phrase, “beta af”.

13. Constant Flirting. Yeah I mean, its cute and all but I would also like to have a conversation without you commenting on me. I just want a decent conversation, and your here flirting. Ya’ know what i’m getting at?

14. I hate it when guys try too hard to be the “MANLY MAN.” Like, Dave, I’ve been on my own for awhile, I can open a jar of salsa.

Trace the scars life has left you. It will remind you that at one point, you fought for something. You believed.

“You are the only person who gets to decide if you are happy or not—do not put your happiness into the hands of other people. Do not make it contingent on their acceptance of you or their feelings for you. At the end of the day, it doesn’t matter if someone dislikes you or if someone doesn’t want to be with you. All that matters is that you are happy with the person you are becoming. All that matters is that you like yourself, that you are proud of what you are putting out into the world. You are in charge of your joy, of your worth. You get to be your own validation. Please don’t ever forget that.” — Bianca Sparacino

Excerpted from The Strength In Our Scars by Bianca Sparacino.