50 Things That Are Going To Turn Her Off, Not Make Her Sleep With You

By Thought Catalog Updated January 12, 2024

28. Pushing boundaries. If I say I don’t wanna satisfy your fetish, or send you nudes, or talk about your naked body, etc over whatever online tool we’re using to interact, then I don’t. I was literally asked by a guy I know to change my personality, just so I could satisfy his fetish. I’m happily married (not to him) and he knows it.

29. I hate smooth talking. It sounds super fake. And if you’re actually fairly good at it, that just means you’ve been practicing talking the panties off the ladies for awhile. It’s really no win.

Trace the scars life has left you. It will remind you that at one point, you fought for something. You believed.

“You are the only person who gets to decide if you are happy or not—do not put your happiness into the hands of other people. Do not make it contingent on their acceptance of you or their feelings for you. At the end of the day, it doesn’t matter if someone dislikes you or if someone doesn’t want to be with you. All that matters is that you are happy with the person you are becoming. All that matters is that you like yourself, that you are proud of what you are putting out into the world. You are in charge of your joy, of your worth. You get to be your own validation. Please don’t ever forget that.” — Bianca Sparacino

Excerpted from The Strength In Our Scars by Bianca Sparacino.