50 Men Reveal What Turns Them On Now That They’re Older And More Mature

By Thought Catalog Updated January 12, 2024

32. Men. Kept trying to convince myself I was straight when I was little but my first stiffy was from seeing toby McGuire in his Spiderman outfit in the theater when I was a kid.

Basically Spiderman is the reason my sexuality has awakened to it’s true form.

Trace the scars life has left you. It will remind you that at one point, you fought for something. You believed.

“You are the only person who gets to decide if you are happy or not—do not put your happiness into the hands of other people. Do not make it contingent on their acceptance of you or their feelings for you. At the end of the day, it doesn’t matter if someone dislikes you or if someone doesn’t want to be with you. All that matters is that you are happy with the person you are becoming. All that matters is that you like yourself, that you are proud of what you are putting out into the world. You are in charge of your joy, of your worth. You get to be your own validation. Please don’t ever forget that.” — Bianca Sparacino

Excerpted from The Strength In Our Scars by Bianca Sparacino.