If These 50 Toxic Traits Remind You Of Your Friends, You Need To Mute, Block, And Delete

By Thought Catalog Updated January 12, 2024

28. For me, it’s flakiness. Pure and simple. Like, it’s perfectly okay to cancel on someone, because life does get in the way and we’re only human. But when it happens often enough, you start to realize that it’s not so much that they’re terrible with time management, and more to do with the fact that they’re just not invested in you as a friend. Rule of thumb, a friend who can’t even spare one hour for you in a three month period isn’t your friend.

29. Lousy thoughtless presents. One year for my birthday she gave me a pair of thick heavy socks with Christmas decorations all over them. My birthday is in the middle of summer and I live in the desert. At the time it was well over 100° F every day.

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Trace the scars life has left you. It will remind you that at one point, you fought for something. You believed.

“You are the only person who gets to decide if you are happy or not—do not put your happiness into the hands of other people. Do not make it contingent on their acceptance of you or their feelings for you. At the end of the day, it doesn’t matter if someone dislikes you or if someone doesn’t want to be with you. All that matters is that you are happy with the person you are becoming. All that matters is that you like yourself, that you are proud of what you are putting out into the world. You are in charge of your joy, of your worth. You get to be your own validation. Please don’t ever forget that.” — Bianca Sparacino

Excerpted from The Strength In Our Scars by Bianca Sparacino.