20. Thinking that because I (a male) don’t feel like having sex means I think they (a female) aren’t attractive. Sometimes I’m just fucking tired, or I have indigestion.
21. Stop sending me one to two word text. I’m not carrying a conversation by myself!
22. Refusing to lose an argument. Yes, you can win the argument by baiting a guy into raising his voice and then crying inconsolably because he “yelled” at you. But should you?
“You are the only person who gets to decide if you are happy or not—do not put your happiness into the hands of other people. Do not make it contingent on their acceptance of you or their feelings for you. At the end of the day, it doesn’t matter if someone dislikes you or if someone doesn’t want to be with you. All that matters is that you are happy with the person you are becoming. All that matters is that you like yourself, that you are proud of what you are putting out into the world. You are in charge of your joy, of your worth. You get to be your own validation. Please don’t ever forget that.” — Bianca Sparacino
Excerpted from The Strength In Our Scars by Bianca Sparacino.
