50 Guys Get Real About The Relationship Mistakes They Repeatedly Catch Girls Making

By Thought Catalog Updated January 12, 2024

49. Not giving your bf space. I can understand wanting to be with that person, but everyone needs alone time, whether it be a little or a lot. Not saying you shouldn’t spend time together, but every now and again when he gets in front of the console and/or goes hanging with the boys, let him be (provided he’s not doing anything too stupid). A couple hours apart won’t kill you. But my fellow guys, also make sure to spend time with your gf, it’s a team effort.

50. Not telling us what’s wrong. It’s a cliché, but it is so true. Like just tell me.

Trace the scars life has left you. It will remind you that at one point, you fought for something. You believed.

“You are the only person who gets to decide if you are happy or not—do not put your happiness into the hands of other people. Do not make it contingent on their acceptance of you or their feelings for you. At the end of the day, it doesn’t matter if someone dislikes you or if someone doesn’t want to be with you. All that matters is that you are happy with the person you are becoming. All that matters is that you like yourself, that you are proud of what you are putting out into the world. You are in charge of your joy, of your worth. You get to be your own validation. Please don’t ever forget that.” — Bianca Sparacino

Excerpted from The Strength In Our Scars by Bianca Sparacino.