36. I’ve dated a few girls who couldn’t cook a grilled cheese sandwich, let alone a solid meal. I’m not playing that “woman should be in the kitchen” stereotype. I can cook pretty well. It’s just a turn off. I’ve ended relationships because it.
37. Falling in love with a fantasy, and then not putting in the work on their end if something needs to be fixed, discussed, resolved, or adjusted.
38. Trying to make it work with men who obviously do not care.
“You are the only person who gets to decide if you are happy or not—do not put your happiness into the hands of other people. Do not make it contingent on their acceptance of you or their feelings for you. At the end of the day, it doesn’t matter if someone dislikes you or if someone doesn’t want to be with you. All that matters is that you are happy with the person you are becoming. All that matters is that you like yourself, that you are proud of what you are putting out into the world. You are in charge of your joy, of your worth. You get to be your own validation. Please don’t ever forget that.” — Bianca Sparacino
Excerpted from The Strength In Our Scars by Bianca Sparacino.
