50 Dumb Things Guys Do On First Dates

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36. Don’t neg.

“Negging doesn’t work. I went in a date with a guy I had a crush on in high school. It was a slam dunk for him but he insulted me for the fact I had a tattoo and when I went to the bathroom I came back to a random girl screaming at him. Apparently he insinuated that she was spoiled because she lived in a certain neighborhood that is known to be extremely wealthy. I was gone for two minutes.

So I told her not to worry about him, he insulted me too and I won’t be bringing him back to this bar. I said it right in front of him. His jaw dropped, I paid for our drinks and I had him take me home. During the drive I explained to him that he said a lot of wrong things and it wasn’t going to happen.

Also I don’t know why he insulted her. Earlier he brought up having a financial advisor and his dad taught him and hired him to program at his dad’s company.”

—smokesmagoats

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Trace the scars life has left you. It will remind you that at one point, you fought for something. You believed.

Trace the scars life has left you. It will remind you that at one point, you fought for something. You believed.

“You are the only person who gets to decide if you are happy or not—do not put your happiness into the hands of other people. Do not make it contingent on their acceptance of you or their feelings for you. At the end of the day, it doesn’t matter if someone dislikes you or if someone doesn’t want to be with you. All that matters is that you are happy with the person you are becoming. All that matters is that you like yourself, that you are proud of what you are putting out into the world. You are in charge of your joy, of your worth. You get to be your own validation. Please don’t ever forget that.” — Bianca Sparacino

Excerpted from The Strength In Our Scars by Bianca Sparacino.

Trace the scars life has left you. It will remind you that at one point, you fought for something. You believed.

Trace the scars life has left you. It will remind you that at one point, you fought for something. You believed.

“You are the only person who gets to decide if you are happy or not—do not put your happiness into the hands of other people. Do not make it contingent on their acceptance of you or their feelings for you. At the end of the day, it doesn’t matter if someone dislikes you or if someone doesn’t want to be with you. All that matters is that you are happy with the person you are becoming. All that matters is that you like yourself, that you are proud of what you are putting out into the world. You are in charge of your joy, of your worth. You get to be your own validation. Please don’t ever forget that.” — Bianca Sparacino

Excerpted from The Strength In Our Scars by Bianca Sparacino.

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