27 Women Ask The Question They’ve Always Wanted To Know About Men (And 27 Men Answer)

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5. SHOWING EMOTIONS AFTER A BREAKUP

Q:  “Do you often feel like you are restricted from being appropriately emotional during a breakup?”
—matte_personality

A: “The night my girlfriend broke up with me, I was crushed, immediately broke down when I got in my car. Then I went out with the guys and got super wasted. Ended up sleeping in the same bed as my best bud. I cried myself to sleep that night, he was comforting. Some dudes are afraid of letting their emotions out, but I am super open about it, no reason to hide how you feel, especially right after a break up. Being open with your friends depends on the comfort level you share with those friends.”
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Trace the scars life has left you. It will remind you that at one point, you fought for something. You believed.

Trace the scars life has left you. It will remind you that at one point, you fought for something. You believed.

“You are the only person who gets to decide if you are happy or not—do not put your happiness into the hands of other people. Do not make it contingent on their acceptance of you or their feelings for you. At the end of the day, it doesn’t matter if someone dislikes you or if someone doesn’t want to be with you. All that matters is that you are happy with the person you are becoming. All that matters is that you like yourself, that you are proud of what you are putting out into the world. You are in charge of your joy, of your worth. You get to be your own validation. Please don’t ever forget that.” — Bianca Sparacino

Excerpted from The Strength In Our Scars by Bianca Sparacino.

Trace the scars life has left you. It will remind you that at one point, you fought for something. You believed.

Trace the scars life has left you. It will remind you that at one point, you fought for something. You believed.

“You are the only person who gets to decide if you are happy or not—do not put your happiness into the hands of other people. Do not make it contingent on their acceptance of you or their feelings for you. At the end of the day, it doesn’t matter if someone dislikes you or if someone doesn’t want to be with you. All that matters is that you are happy with the person you are becoming. All that matters is that you like yourself, that you are proud of what you are putting out into the world. You are in charge of your joy, of your worth. You get to be your own validation. Please don’t ever forget that.” — Bianca Sparacino

Excerpted from The Strength In Our Scars by Bianca Sparacino.

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