47 Former Players Reveal Exactly How One Special Girl Changed Them For Good

By Thought Catalog, May 5th 2018

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4. “For a long time, during every date I went on, I was ‘thinking’ with my dick the entire time. One night I was out with this hot brunette at an Italian restaurant, staring at her blankly as I imagined her on top of me, naked, tits bouncing up and down, when she asked me a question. Something simple, probably, but I didn’t hear her because I was distracted by my own egocentric inner dialogue. When I didn’t answer, she tilted her head, raised her eyebrows and said, ‘Not worth it.’ Then she got up and left! We hadn’t even gotten our entrées yet. I was so shocked but I ran after her and I found myself apologizing for everything I’d been doing wrong. Somehow, she set me straight, and we’re still together five years later. I only wish I could say sorry to all the other women I ignored or belittled before her.”

— Jorge, 31

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“You are the only person who gets to decide if you are happy or not—do not put your happiness into the hands of other people. Do not make it contingent on their acceptance of you or their feelings for you. At the end of the day, it doesn’t matter if someone dislikes you or if someone doesn’t want to be with you. All that matters is that you are happy with the person you are becoming. All that matters is that you like yourself, that you are proud of what you are putting out into the world. You are in charge of your joy, of your worth. You get to be your own validation. Please don’t ever forget that.” — Bianca Sparacino

Excerpted from The Strength In Our Scars by Bianca Sparacino.