47 Former Players Reveal Exactly How One Special Girl Changed Them For Good

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13. “This girl totally shamed me on social media after I ignored her texts for a few weeks straight. She took a screenshot of our initial back-and-forth from when I was still interested and being flirty and posted it to Facebook with a whole caption explaining how I’d ‘humped and dumped’ her. I was pissed at first but then I stepped back and really started to question my behavior. After thinking long and hard about how I’d acted, I realized that I’d pretty much asked for it. I ended up apologizing publicly through a comment on her post and then I asked her out. We’ve been dating seriously since—no nonsense, no games—and it feels really good.”

— Rex, 29

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Trace the scars life has left you. It will remind you that at one point, you fought for something. You believed.

Trace the scars life has left you. It will remind you that at one point, you fought for something. You believed.

“You are the only person who gets to decide if you are happy or not—do not put your happiness into the hands of other people. Do not make it contingent on their acceptance of you or their feelings for you. At the end of the day, it doesn’t matter if someone dislikes you or if someone doesn’t want to be with you. All that matters is that you are happy with the person you are becoming. All that matters is that you like yourself, that you are proud of what you are putting out into the world. You are in charge of your joy, of your worth. You get to be your own validation. Please don’t ever forget that.” — Bianca Sparacino

Excerpted from The Strength In Our Scars by Bianca Sparacino.