Mr. Nice Guy, The Real Reason Women Won’t Fuck You

Because You’re Not Really A Nice Guy

I’m always wary of the self proclaimed ‘nice guy’. If you were really a nice guy, would you have to advertise it?

As a self proclaimed nice guy, you fall into one of these three categories:

1. You’re genuinely a nice guy but not terribly gifted at attracting women and asking them out.
2. You’re an asshole masquerading as a ‘nice guy’ because you think that’s what women want.
3. You think that being a ‘nice guy’ should be enough to get you laid.
   I suspect that you my friend, are the worse kind of nice guy.

You’re a type 3 nice guy who thinks that women should want to date you and fuck you because you’re a nice guy.

But you’re wrong, which is why you always get put into the ‘friend zone’ (which is a term I absolutely despise mainly because the people who complain about being put into the friend zone are typically useless losers).

I have more respect for assholes masquerading as nice guys because at least those dudes are sneaky and self aware enough to know that most self respecting women don’t go for assholes.

So they pretend to be nice guys to get laid. And it works. And then they move on.

I don’t condone it, but I respect it more than ‘nice guys’ who feel women owe them attention and sex just for being nice.

Being a Nice Guy Is The Bare Fucking Minimum

We should all strive to be nice, all the time, to everyone, and then improve from there.

That’s how life should work. We show people the same courtesy and respect that we would want them to show us.

Being a nice guy shouldn’t get you anything special. Not even a pat on the back, or a “good job!”

And especially not a date, or a fuck.

Nope. Not even a little bit.

Women Don’t Owe You A Goddamn Thing Mr. Nice Guy

If you were really a nice guy, you’d understand that women are free to do as they please. Women aren’t in the business of trading sex in exchange for you being nice to them.

If you think being a nice guy should be enough to get you laid, then you got another thing coming. Women don’t owe you sex, or a date, or a relationship because you’re a nice guy.

Since you’re so desperate for a relationship (or a date, or sex, or attention, or love), you think every woman puts you in the friend zone, when in actuality you’re the one putting every woman in the girlfriend zone.

There is no friend zone, girlfriend zone, or boyfriend zone.

There are simply two people (and sometimes more) spending time together and deciding what kind of relationship they’d like to have together.

Every now and then, those desires line up. You meet someone who wants what you want. Amazing.

But for the most part, there’s a mismatch in what people want. You want a relationship and she wants a friendship. Happens all the time. Get over it.

But instead of moving on you get mad and start asking things like, “don’t women want to date nice guys?”

Here’s your answer: they very much do (but there’s a catch).

Most Women Want More Than a Nice Guy

A nice guy is the bare minimum and most women want more than the bare minimum. Much more.

Smart, stable, emotionally available women want to date smart, stable, emotionally available men. Not whiny little boys who throw tantrums whenever they meet women who don’t want to date them.

Women want more than nice. And for the most part, so do men.

Am I looking for a nice gal?

No, not at all.

I want a badass, smart, capable, emotionally available, fun, and sexy woman. I want her to be dependable, handy, honest, funny, strong, vulnerable, and authentic.

Sounds like a tall order right? And it should be.

Why shouldn’t I have an awesome partner? You get what you put into life and I’m not willing to settle for the bare minimum.

Just a nice gal? No thanks. Too basic for me.

Are You Asking The Right Questions?

I’m going to give you the benefit of the doubt and assume that you’re genuinely a nice guy, but that you’re not exactly gifted in the art of being direct and making your intentions known. If this is truly your case, I can help.

You say women don’t want to date you and put you in the friend zone immediately. Is that because you’re not being clear about your intentions from the get go?

Perhaps you’re approaching the whole interaction from the angle of a friend. Perhaps you’re scared of being honest about what you really want because you think that’s what ‘nice guys’ do.

Have you ever considered taking charge of your dating destiny and accepting responsibility for why women don’t want to date you?

Next time you meet someone you’d like to date, ask her if she’s single and if she’d like to go on a date with you.

This Is How To Escape The Friend Zone

When you ask a woman out on a date, she’s no longer looking at you as a potential friend.

She’s evaluating you as a potential partner of sorts. It might be just for a date or two, or just for sex, or something more serious. As soon as you make your intention clear however, you remove friendship off the table.

“But isn’t being this forward risky? What if she rejects me?” you might ask.

Yup, it’s risky. And yup, you will get rejected (most of the time.)

But it’s nowhere near as risky as living your whole life as the ‘nice guy’ who keeps getting put in the ‘friend zone’.

I’ll take rejection any day over that death sentence.