Ruby Dhal

You are not your experiences – you are what you choose to make of those experiences.

Spending most of your years in the bliss of singleness teaches you a lot of things, both good and bad.

I want you to listen to me clearly – things do not get better straight away.

We think that the moment we’ve found love, we’ve found a way to happiness that we didn’t have before. We think that being in a committed relationship is the solution to all our problems and, once we have a partner, we can take on everything else.

Maybe we’ve got it all wrong.

By alone, I mean only depending on yourself for your happiness and your comfort. I mean dreaming of a future where your goals rely on you, and only you, to achieve them. 

Don’t feel bad or guilty, because putting yourself first is not a crime. Taking care of your mental and emotional health is your priority.

It is a lesson that teaches you about love – that love is not one-sided or unsure about you, love is not one foot in and one foot out, love does not lead you on only to leave you or let you go.

I tasted salty water and felt the sand find a home between my toes as I walked into self-discovery.

I had to learn it for myself, but unfortunately some of us never learn this lesson the right way.

Because if you really meant the first part but not the last, and I mean truly meant it, you would’ve finished it off the right way.

It is a requirement that two people in a relationship should love and respect one another and be loyal to each other. Why would you be in a relationship with someone who you didn’t love or see as an equal?

Why can’t we have conversations like normal people? Conversations which consist of us just being ourselves – honest, upfront and friends before anything else.