Maybe You Scare Them Because You’re Honest

Maybe you scare them because you value yourself, because you’re strong enough to walk away and because you’re smart enough to know your worth. Maybe they got so used to being put on a pedestal that they don’t know how to be anywhere else.

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 Noël Alva
Noël Alva

Maybe you scare them because you’re too honest in a time where people are drawn to those who frost their words, who manipulate their sentences and people who know how to make a lie sound sweeter than the truth. Maybe your honesty is bitter to those who don’t want to taste what’s original – to those who only want the icing on the cake.

Maybe you scare them because you know what you want and you know what you don’t want and everyone else is lost trying to figure it out. Maybe they’re lost in their own uncertainty to a point where they reject anything that’s sure of itself or maybe they just got used to people being unsure of them that now they don’t understand those who are.

Maybe you scare them because you don’t want to play games when everyone is competing, when everyone is obsessed with winning that not playing the game makes you a loser. Maybe you’re surrounded by people who are experts at playing the game they don’t know what it’s like on the other side and they don’t want to be beginners again.

Maybe you scare them because you tell them what they don’t want to hear and they’ve gotten so used to people feeding them lies to win them over. Maybe they want to believe whatever image people have created for them and they don’t want to look for who they really are. Maybe your words are so unfamiliar to them that they just don’t believe them or even understand them.

Maybe you scare them because you pay attention. You don’t forget what they said when they were angry or when they were vulnerable, you pay attention to their eyes and their body language, you pay attention to the tone of their voice and their hand gestures, maybe they’re not used to being seen or heard and your attention makes them uncomfortable because it means they have to take their masks off.

Maybe you scare them because you know they’re scared and you’re still not cautious. Maybe you’re reckless with your heart and your emotions and they don’t know how to handle them, they don’t know how to handle anything that disturbs their safety, that disturbs their routine or disturbs their reality. Maybe your heart beats faster than them and they can’t catch up with you.

Maybe you scare them because you don’t need them. Because they know you can survive without them, because they know that you won’t wait for them, because they know you will stand up for yourself and because they know that you will not allow yourself to be another number on their list.

Maybe you scare them because you value yourself, because you’re strong enough to walk away and because you’re smart enough to know your worth. Maybe they got so used to being put on a pedestal that they don’t know how to be anywhere else.

No matter what the reason may be, keep scaring them. Keep scaring them with your honesty, with your strength, with your kindness, with your love, with your understanding, with your words, with your eyes, with your presence and with your ability to read them. Keep reading them until you find someone who is just as fearless as you are and who won’t get scared off that easily, someone who is just as scary as you are that it starts to scare youThought Catalog Logo Mark