Nikita Gill

You realise you have to learn who you are all over again. Abusive relationships drain your personal energy, they rely heavily on making you forget who you are independent of that toxic human in your life. You remember attributes of your own that you had to hide away in order to appease this toxic person. You learn how to allow those attributes to flourish.

Celebrate the little things. You’re the only one who gets to see them, so celebrate them.

Every year she promises herself that she’ll be better, every new year’s resolution is the same. But sometimes flaws talk so loudly that just existing causes her enough pain.

You are ocean deep and those that are as shallow as puddles will always dismiss you, misunderstand you, abandon you; all for fear of disappearing in your depths.

My grandmother has always said, “Don’t go to bed angry with each other.” This is excellent advice for a long lasting, loving relationship.

Fall in love with someone who values you and doesn’t make you denigrate your dreams and needs for them.

You are never too late for love. Even if you are the last person amongst your friends to marry, still waiting for the right kind of person with a big enough heart and the kind of softness you have needed, don’t settle for anything less than a love that always makes you hopeful.

The worst loneliness is to not be comfortable with yourself.

This is the kind of hero you are: every time things have become so difficult you can barely breathe, you have clenched your jaw and pulled your way through, even if every odd has been stacked against you.

Music a universal language. You don’t need to know the alphabet or the syllables of words to allow it to flow through your body and soothe you, or excite you, or make you happy.

Just don’t lie to me and promise me forever please. I have already spent hours wasted with people who promised me that and ended up as temporary as the seasons.

I often look up at the night sky, a cup of tea in my hands. This is especially on the days I encounter negativity and people being cruel to me.

I love myself far too much to allow you back into my life ever again. You were a dangerous thing that made me question my existence without you. Well, not only did I learn to live without you, I learned how much better life is when one person is not your universe.

I try to spend a vast majority of my time trying to figure out how to be nice to other people. I always think I am not doing enough.

On your worst days, when the world has been most cruel to you, when things have gone so wrong you can barely breathe without a thousand knives feeling like they are stabbing into you and you feel like you don’t…

The people you love are not above being temporary if you do not appreciate or care for them. That version of love where someone loves someone else unrequited whilst the other person does whatever they want is nothing but a movie formula. And even in the movies, the person who is fooling around realises what they have lost once it’s gone and go chasing after it.

Love is not supposed to be so hard. Yes, love requires compromise, and it requires change but it should not feel like it is difficult to change a few things about your life for that person.

If there is anything that is a real threat to authenticity and originality, it’s cliques. I used to think cliques were something that you leave behind in high school, but oh boy was I wrong. Cliques don’t go away.