For Honest People Seeking Love In A World Afraid of Rejection

We need more of you in the world.

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Ines Perkovic

This is for the people who are trying to be honest in a world filled with rules that makes loving someone honestly impossible. Where hiding what you feel about someone is important because you don’t want to feel rejected. Where ‘don’t text him yet’ and ‘if you call now you’ll seem too keen for her’ and ‘what did he mean when he said that’ and ‘she really meant this because of her body language’ is now more important than what a person is actually saying to you. Where subliminal meanings take precedence over love, and not ever compromising on your ego is more important than love has ever been.

This is for people who still believe in things like speaking to someone face to face is better than decrypting their every little message, move and idea behind their backs. For people who are brave enough to tell someone the truth, no matter the outcome. For the people who text “Today was wonderful, I hope you enjoyed it as much as I did” rather than trying to play it cool and text something ‘appropriate’ after an ‘acceptable’ amount of time has passed. If you’re the kind of person who tells someone you love them before they do because that’s how you really feel, and your ego matters less than how you feel about someone, then thank you.

We need more of you in the world.

You see, the world has become a place where we are so afraid of rejection that we have forgotten how to be real, all in an effort to protect our feelings. But think of it this way, wouldn’t you rather have someone tell you exactly how they feel about you and be honest with them in turn than play this game of ‘look who crumbles first?’. It’s ironic how every single human being out there is looking for, and is in dire need of love, but we’re all so afraid to tell each other how we truly feel that we will never know.

And sometimes, we leave it too late. Sometimes we spend days, hours, months waiting on the other person to call, for the other person to message and let something beautiful go, just because we’re too afraid of what the other person may perceive us to be. And then we lament and dream in what ifs and what could have beens. We end up in the same place where we were before we lost this beautiful thing, tired and feeling a little more broken, a little more jaded in love. We forget completely that we have brought this on ourselves by not being honest about how we feel.

So please, if you are the kind of person who is honest with the people you love without thinking of how hard the consequences may be on your heart, please don’t change that about yourself. Don’t allow your heart to be hardened into playing games just like everyone else. Don’t let the world fool you into thinking that you’re doing it wrong. Keep being honest. Because you’re one of the few who is getting it right. Keep looking for a love who is just as honest back.

And you deserve the kind of love that is honest, and true and good to your truthful, gentle heart. Thought Catalog Logo Mark


About the author

Nikita Gill

Nikita is the author of Your Soul Is A River and Your Heart Is The Sea.