12 Men Talk About The Girl Who Broke Their Heart And Whether They’re Over Her

1. “She broke my heart, but technically it was my own actions that were the cause of it. I was an immature young 20-something who just wanted to be…an immature young 20-something, and even though I knew I loved her, that wasn’t enough for me to shape up and give her what she needed. I don’t blame her for leaving me, but looking back on it now that I’m ready for a real relationship, I wish I would’ve realized what I had when I had it.” —Brad, 30

2. “I look at heartbreak as something that inevitably, and unfortunately happens, but I don’t live my life in fear of it. Yeah, she broke my heart, and it sucked when it happened, but when I meet someone else I’m not going to resist my feelings just because it didn’t work in the past.” —Michael, 29

3. “She left me for London. She got a promotion that she didn’t have to accept, but she did. We both knew we wouldn’t last long-distance, so we had to end it. We still loved each other, but I guess my love wasn’t good enough for her to stay. I was devastated. I didn’t know what heartbreak was until that happened, and I’m definitely still not over her.” —Paul, 27

4. “I don’t think you ever fully ‘get over’ the girl who broke your heart. I think you sort of take them with you in every relationship you have after that and use it as a lesson. And if you don’t use it as a lesson, then you’re probably still in love with them.” —James, 27

5. “Long-term relationships fucking suck. If they don’t last forever, then they fuck with your head forever. How the hell am I supposed to get over a girl who I thought I was going to spend the rest of my life with? It’s basically impossible.” —Max, 26

6. “When it happened I thought I’d never get over it, but when people tell you it just takes time, they’re kinda right. It’s not that I’ve forgotten about her, it’s just that I realize we weren’t good for each other, and we both deserve to find someone who is.” —Zander, 28

7. “Her parents were the reason we couldn’t be together. Yes, I’m significantly older than her and have a child, and I can understand that maybe her parents wanted her to meet a guy who was closer to her age and hadn’t already had a kid with another woman, but you can’t help who you love, and she definitely loved me. I think she still does, she just can’t live a life without her parents’ acceptance. I date other women now, but I haven’t met anyone who makes me feel the way she did. We don’t really talk anymore, but if she ever changed her mind, I’d be back with her in a second.” —Frankie, 34

8. “To this day I don’t really know what I did wrong. She said she fell out of love with me. It was over 3 years ago, and I’d say after it happened I went through one year of not wanting to even have a conversation with a woman, to another year of just fucking women, and now I think I’m finally at a point where it’s been so long since I’ve had a real relationship, that I’m ready to try and have one again.” —Antonio, 28

9. “We started as friends. I was attracted to her from the very beginning, but it took her getting to really know me to see me in that way. When we crossed that line, and continued to cross that line repetitively, I thought she was finally going to admit that she wanted to be with me, that we weren’t ‘just friends,’ and that she was willing to risk the friendship for more. So after a year of not clearly defining anything, I basically fell in love with her. I loved her before we were ever even a couple, which is why it hurt when she told me she didn’t want to fully commit. I think the worst part about it is that she was scared of losing my friendship, and we ended up losing the friendship anyway.” —Bryan, 26

10.. “I definitely still wish we were together, which is definitely why I can’t find someone else, but she hasn’t found anyone else either. Maybe we’re both holding out for each other. I don’t know, love sucks.” —Nolan, 26

11. “She said she needed time to figure herself out, that she was with me for so long that she never got to experience anything else, really she meant anyone else. She still loved me, which basically translated to her asking me to wait around until she did ‘figure herself out.’ I knew I didn’t want to see other people, I only wanted to see her, and that’s how I knew it would never work. I had a lot of trouble getting over what we had, but I didn’t have trouble getting over the person she became.” —Roman, 28

12. “I think the only way you know if you’re over the girl who broke your heart is if you’re open to finding someone who could potentially do it again, and choosing to be with them anyway.” —Alex, 30