Michelle Herman
Michelle writes about life, loss, love, and what she’s learned over the years.
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Michelle Herman
If You Ever Wondered What Advice Your Mom Would Give You, You Can Find It Here
The first draft of my new book—my first for children—was written in 2001, as a gift for my daughter, who was then eight and a half years old.
What It’s Like When You’ve Been Best Friends Almost Forever
True love, we say, about the romances that matter most to us. I fell in love. About true friendship — that tug, that falling in, falling together, snapping into place — no one says I fell.
23 Things You Probably Didn’t Know At 23
If you do the best you can — if you really do — one way or another, things will work out. Maybe not in exactly the way you imagined, but they will.
14 Things You Should Know If You Want To Stay Married For A Long Time
Stop waiting and hoping for your wife or husband to change. They are who they are. That’s why you married them.
How To Rediscover The Song In Your Heart
My great discovery, that cold spring in New England, was that not having someone to sing with didn’t matter so much, after all. Not if I had someone to sing to.
12 Things I’d Tell My 25-Year-Old Self If I Could Talk to Her Today
I know you’re worried about not being good enough at the things that matter most to you. Well, you’re not, yet. But you’ll get better.
What To Do When Your Child (Who Isn’t A Child Anymore So Stop Calling Her That) Goes Off To College
Don’t bother emailing. Ever. You’ll never get a response to an email.
Why Sending Your Child Off To College Is Like Giving Birth All Over Again
Or maybe it’s more like a breakup. The way missing her changes everything. The way you wonder, at odd moments throughout the day: what’s she doing now? The way you can’t really picture it — you don’t know enough.
What Becoming A Mother Taught Me About Writing (And What Writing Taught Me About Being A Mother)
It changed the way I wrote, and it changed what I wrote about.
Some Things Everyone Should Know Before They Travel Alone
Don’t try to blend in. Nothing’s going to make you look more like a tourist than loose-fitting jeans or khakis and solid-color t-shirts.
10 Things Ex-Boyfriends Are Good For
I’m not sure why I listened — I’m not sure why I didn’t roll my eyes the way I did when he corrected my pronunciation of Van Gogh or tempura — but I did.
Why Mothers Should Read To Their Daughters
She grew up — she had to grow up. Like everyone does. She discovered her own books, books I’d never read — books that hadn’t been written yet when I was a child. It’s what’s supposed to happen.
A Daughter Is The Friend Her Mother Always Wanted
I find myself thinking sometimes about how much I would have liked the young woman she has become — how wonderful it would have been to know her — when I was the age she is now.
What Happens When You Lose Your Father
He didn’t want to die, that Saturday morning at 5 AM. He just finally knew that he was going to. I don’t think he ever believed it before then — no more than my mother did, no more than my brother did.