Laura Yates

Heartbreak is the ultimate fuel for creativity. Just look at all the millions of books, songs, art, creations and even businesses that have been inspired by heartbreak.

Disclosure – there are no magic texts or things you can do/say that will have your ex back in your arms tonight. But hear me out because like most things in life, if you’re willing to play the long game, whatever the eventuality, you really can’t lose.

I was afraid that if I let him go, he would go off with someone else and then I’d be missing out, alone and always thinking ’that could have been me but I let it go’.

The thing is, often people go in hot pursuit of finding someone else because they think that will fill the void of being without their ex.

You can never predict what is going to happen in a relationship. You can’t predict what people are going to do.

I also wondered why, when I knew he did all of these things, did I still want to cling to all of that and let go of everything else within my life in pursuit of making this relationship work.

Don’t live your life through your social media feed. Learn to enjoy what’s real and out there right now.

We live in a world where love, soulmates and romance is portrayed in a way that just doesn’t usually fit reality.

Isn’t it funny how it’s the destructive and even toxic relationships that are the hardest ones to let go of?

When you have no contact with your ex, you have far more control over your mood and it gives you that emotional distance that you absolutely need in order to get over the relationship. If you keep maintaining unnecessary contact, time won’t make you feel any better, it will just prolong the entire process.

It’s easier to fall back into the same comforting patterns than to go through the heartbreak of not being in the relationship anymore.