Some Friendships Don’t Last, And That’s Okay

There are a lot of reasons why we fall apart. It may be college, a huge fight, new set of friends, or maybe because she forgot to invite you to a night out or two. But we have to accept that some friendships do not last, and that it is okay. We have to learn how to stop blaming ourselves, because sometimes there are reasons why we have to let go of some people.

Growing up means that we also have to grow apart. We may miss how we constantly make fun of each other over a childhood crush or an embarrassing moment. We may also continuously reminisce over old photographs and ask ourselves why we suddenly grew apart. But we have to move on and accept that everything has changed. Sure, it’s painful. But it’s normal.

We may try to spend time with each other, but then we face the reality that the magic is gone, and it wasn’t as easy as before. We cannot laugh over a silly old inside joke or make fun of the same person. But the worst is when smooth flowing banters turn into awkward conversations and the person you’re used to have lunch dates with suddenly turns into a total stranger.

We cannot blame anyone for anything. It’s no one’s fault. It’s just how it is. We have to learn to accept that sometimes it’s not healthy to hang on to some people for so long because it won’t help us become the person we want to be—it won’t help us learn, it won’t help us grow. Sure, it’s amazing how some friendships last. But we have to wake up to the reality that not every friendship does. We can’t always hold on to people and memories even as much as we want to. We have to accept that goodbyes aren’t easy. But hellos after that are even harder. We have to learn that it’s neither our fault nor theirs; it’s just how things are and that’s just how life is.

Some friendships don’t last, and it’s okay. Trust me, I’ve lost a few good ones. And you will too.