Kovie Biakolo

There is more to life than being in a relationship. For many people, we are constantly evaluating and re-evaluating our relationship statuses.

How am I not enough for you?

1. Make 3 goals in 3 different areas of your life that are time-sensitive and tell people who you know will make you accountable.

Black bodies universally are subjected to different moral codes based on their social constructions. Black female bodies are simultaneously hypersexualized and desecrated. Black male bodies are deemed dangerous.

There is a tendency in our human imagination to believe that people who we deem as successful and happy are ONLY successful and happy. There is a tendency to forget that people have their own struggles and heartaches.

White people who speak as I do are seldom ever told that they are, “well-spoken.” They don’t need to be; it is assumed. And that is how privilege works.

The thing about summer romance is that the kisses are always better.

Everybody gets their day in court and the best arguments win; sometimes at the expense of justice.

“Elegance does not consist in putting on a new dress.”

“Men look at women. Women watch themselves being looked at.” And we do; well, in the spirit of non-generalizing, let’s just say I do.

Keeping score only makes us miserable; it makes us unable to forget and to trust and love.

“Be yourself,” people say to people. “Live your truth,” is another one of my favorites. You know what I say? I say this can be some very bad advice