Jules Martin

Well, I hate to break it to you. You lost me. I can see now, it was my own fault. I chose to ignore the fact that your actions never lined up with your words. I just kept telling myself that eventually it would work out.

Remember that time you honestly thought you weren’t going to survive? Well look at you, surviving and shit. Once the relief sets in, you become thankful for the lessons you learned. You are able to acknowledge what the relationship taught you and you no longer spend sleepless nights obsessing over the end.

In two years, you can find yourself picking up the pieces. In two years, you can become strangers with the one person you thought you would never lose. In two years, you can find a strength from within that you never knew was possible.

You control your happiness. At the end of the day, we have all the control. We decide who and what we put up with. We decide how hard to work and what we attempt.

Thank you for allowing me to learn some tough lessons on my own. Thank you for stopping me when I started to become destructive. Thank you for never questioning me, even when I questioned myself. You have saved me in so many ways.

Be with someone who tells you exactly where they stand and isn’t afraid to tell you what you mean to them. Find the person who sees the real you, flaws and all, and loves your regardless. Search for a partner who communicates with you.

It will be the kind of love that is selfless, ongoing and everything that you deserve. It will be so great and worth the wait, you will be thanking your previous heartbreaks for breaking you enough to allow you to rebuild yourself how you needed to be.

Wait for the guy who gives you butterflies just by looking at you. Wait for the guy who can call you out on your shit. We all need someone who can bring us back to earth when things get a little crazy. Wait for the guy who pushes you out of your comfort zone to help you grow.

“Long drives with good friends and loud music were what I needed.

I’m going to let you in on a secret. Our self-worth has absolutely nothing to do with what other people think of us and everything to do with what we think of ourselves.

This is the time you need to spend on you. Be selfish with yourself. You can’t truly love another person until you learn to love yourself. So do exactly that, love who you are, flaws and all.

Being single says nothing negative about who you are as a person. Being someone’s significant other isn’t your only goal in life and if you choose to pursue other things instead of love, then good for you.