Holly Riordan

I would rather know how you feel about me from the start than spend months assuming how you feel and find out I was wrong.

It wasn’t your job to fix them, so stop feeling like you’ve failed. Stop telling yourself they would have changed if they loved you enough, if they wanted your relationship to work badly enough, because it’s not the truth.

You have high expectations — so you aren’t going to settle for anything less than the best. 

I’m not interested in taking care of you when we’re both supposed to be taking care of each other.

If you want the truth, our relationship is never going to be the same. I’m going to be cautious of you moving forward. I’m going to be suspicious. I’m not going to trust you the same way I used to trust you. I’m not going to look at you the same way either.

Don’t settle for someone who gives you ultimatums. Don’t settle for someone who forces you to pick between him and friends you’ve known your entire life. Don’t settle for someone who questions your loyalty when you haven’t done a single thing wrong.

You shouldn’t stay together because you would rather stick it out with him than start all over again with a new relationship.

If you love me the right way, I won’t make you fight for my attention. I won’t make you compete for my love. I won’t make you guess what’s on my mind.

You should hold out for a guy who treats you right, not a guy who treats you slightly better than the last guy.

Having anxiety doesn’t mean it’s impossible for me to have fun, to let loose, to be a good friend.

I care too much about myself to start caring about you again. 

I don’t need anyone else to like me. I don’t need anyone else to give me validation because I already know my own value.

The longer you spend in a bad situation, the more normal it feels. You get used to the arguments and the tension and the tiptoeing around.

He’s confident you aren’t going anywhere — while you’re nervous he’s going to leave at any second.

It’s hard to forgive someone who doesn’t even seem like they’re sorry.

It’s easy for me to tell other people everything is going to be okay and to keep thinking positive, but it’s hard for me to convince myself sometimes.

I should have realized I was asking the absolute minimum from you — and you couldn’t even give me that.

In some ways, committing is scarier than ever when you find the right person because you really want the relationship to work out. You really don’t want to lose them.