Holly Riordan

It’s so much easier to let yourself fall apart than it is to piece yourself back together again, to pull yourself off the ground, to feel whole. Complete. At peace. 

You have to remind yourself that you’re strong enough to get through this, strong enough to make it until tomorrow, and strong enough to make it until the day after that.

In 2020, wear your heart on your sleeve. Speak authentically. Love loudly.

Sometimes, you need to let your worries take a backseat. You need to ignore your doubts, your fears, your what-ifs. You need to take a chance on yourself, even though you’re not completely sure of yourself, even though you have doubts, even though you aren’t positive whether you’re making the right move or making a mistake. 

It’s better to be single than to force a relationship to work. To force your person to pay attention to you. To force yourself to believe everything is going to turn out okay. 

If learning to love yourself sounds like too big of a leap from where you are right now, you can start by learning to give a shit about yourself.

Stop with the bullshit about how there isn’t anyone in this world meant for you.

Toxic humans are dangerous, not just because of the way they treat you, but because of the way they treat others. There’s a strong contrast between the way they act with you and the way they act with everyone else.

You deserve better than someone who is unable to see your value. Someone who was perfectly fine with stringing you along, even though they knew you were going to end up hurting, even though they knew they were doing the wrong thing, even though they knew it was selfish. 

In 2020, don’t date anyone who won’t prioritize you. Don’t date anyone who makes you fight for their attention. Don’t date anyone who makes you feel like you’re not good enough for them. Don’t date anyone who puts in a significantly smaller effort than you do.  

I’m slowly learning it’s okay if other people are unable to see how hard I’ve been working. I’m slowly learning my worth doesn’t changed based on what other people think of me. I’m slowly learning I don’t need someone else to congratulate me in order to know I’ve done a good job.

Instead of freaking out about your age and worrying that you’re running out of time to reach certain milestones, you should appreciate the fact that you’re here. You’re alive. You have the potential to keep trying, to keep chasing after your goals, to keep putting down the building blocks to create your ideal life.

Toxic people will make you feel crazy. Like you’re overreacting. Like you’re too emotional for your own good.

The happiest girls work their asses off — but they also recognize when it’s time to take a break, when it’s time to recharge, when it’s time to give themselves a well-needed vacation so they don’t burn out.

The way you look at yourself in the mirror shouldn’t change based on whether or not someone else called you pretty that day.

Don’t forget why you walked away from someone toxic. Don’t let yourself walk right back into their world. Don’t give them the chance to hurt you all over again. 

It’s better to be single than to get invested in someone toxic.

2020 isn’t the year of perfectionism. It’s the year of persistence. It’s the year where you keep going, even when you feel like giving up on yourself.