This Is Why Authentic Girls Come Across As Clingy
She only comes across as clingy, because she isn't afraid of expressing her feelings.
She isn’t afraid to initiate a conversation or send a double text. She’s perfectly comfortable reaching out to you.
Really, what’s the worst that could happen?
If you ignore her messages or take too long to answer her, then she knows where she stands with you. She knows that you aren’t as interested in her as she is in you.
And as much as that knowledge will hurt, she believes it’s better to know how you feel early on than to hold onto false hope for months. Than to imagine a relationship with you that’s never going to happen.
That’s why she’s so blunt. So honest. So matter of fact.
She doesn’t care if you know how much she likes you. She doesn’t care if you see right through her. She sees no point in playing pretend.
She wants someone who wants to be around her. Someone who won’t get annoyed with her need for attention and affection.
She’s an all-or-nothing girl. She either wants to be with you or she doesn’t want anything to do with you. And if she wants to be with you, she’s obviously going to try to spend time with you.
She’s not going to hold herself back from talking to you to appear cool. To keep you interested in her. To play some kind of childish mind game.
If she wants to talk to you, she’ll shoot you a text. If she wants to see you, she’ll ask you if you’re free to hang out. If she wants to date you, then you’ll know it.
She doesn’t believe in lying or pretending to care less than she actually does. She believes in authenticity. In wearing her heart on her sleeve.
She’s not worried about scaring you away, because she knows that the right guy for her would never judge her over how many times she asks to hang out or how many emojis she sticks inside of a text.
If you’re chased away by the little things that show she likes you, then you’re clearly not compatible. You’re not the person she’s meant to date.
She’s meant to date someone who appreciates that she’s willing to rearrange her schedule to see him and to text him even when she’s tired and to go out of her way to make him smile.
She only comes across as clingy, because she cares.
She only comes across as clingy, because she isn’t afraid of expressing her feelings.
She only comes across as clingy, because from the start, she was willing to try her hardest to make things work with you.
She wants a serious relationship and the only way that’s going to happen is if you both dedicate enough time to each other. If you both go all-in. If you both stop trying to play pretend and agree to be 100% honest 100% of the time.
She realizes that she comes across as clingy, but she doesn’t care, because she wants to see your reaction. She wants to know that you’re serious about her, too.
She wants to know that you care as much as she does. 
Holly Riordan is the author of Lifeless Souls, available here.
