Ella Ceron

We decided to sit down and ask each other a few key questions about the pros and cons of dating someone on the opposite spectrum.

Eating dessert for dinner. Dessert for all the meals, really!

Settling for subpar food or something you didn’t order because your greatest life fear is getting someone to spit in your food in that back kitchen.

It’s not that you’re overtly looking to doom your relationship, either, but sometimes, going with the flow is counterproductive to actually getting anywhere.

They are open to advice and help from those who have been there before — but also that they know when to shut their ears off from detractors and people who doubt them and would love to see them fail.

You were the classmate they never passed that note to. The coworker they never chased because they feared the taboo of dating in the workplace. The friend of a friend. The friend’s ex, and therefore coded as off-limits forever.

Start saying: “If there’s love enough in this world that all of these couples are making their relationships work, there’s got to be something out there for me, too.”

Texting you that their plans fell through and if they could hang, only to spring “good, because I’m around the corner” when you say okay.

Say no when you really want to say no.

There are more sports bras than regular bras in any given load of laundry. At all times.

Just because you weren’t owed anything doesn’t mean there weren’t expectations.

You have never once backed down from a dare.

And when I say everything, I mean they witnessed every pimple, every preteen crush, every bad grade, crappy diorama, and awkward sartorial choice.

After all, you have to grow old, but you don’t necessarily have to grow up.

If you and your friends all follow each other’s advice all the time, you’re going to end up having the same love lives and making the same mistakes time and time again. It’s like asking a frog how to fly.

A then-unknown Yeezus rapped about (among other things) Alanis Morissette’s propensity for irony. (It was culturally relevant back then, okay.)

She knows she’s beautiful, but it’s more than just the appearance and her outer trappings. It’s how she holds herself. She knows. And you can’t begrudge her for having that knowledge.

If you ask me, it’s better to risk being hurt than to feel nothing at all.