Ella Ceron

Whether or not the cat likes you is a huge make-or-break in any potential relationship.

“Sometimes I wish my boyfriend would randomly come home with flowers for me. I see guys with bouquets on the bus every now and again, and whether it’s for an anniversary or a birthday or not, it just seems like a really cute gesture.”

You don’t have to fake anything with them. You can be sad when you’re sad, you can be honest when you need to blow off steam. It really is an under-realized privilege.

You put yourself out there. You risked your emotions, you became vulnerable, and by investing your happiness in a completely different person outside yourself, you took a huge leap of faith. Sometimes we fall from those.

Why do we constantly try to define it, and chase it, and turn it into some quantifiable and commodified THING? Why do we think one person — the person we dub “cool” in the moment — has the answers?

“If a girl is wearing a white tank top, like the ones from Target or whatever, it’s the hottest thing in the world.”

It’s a turn-off to a lot of people.

Chocolate. Covered. Potato. Chips.

Always being the person who initiates everything.

It hurts to realize that not only are you not needed by someone who you so desperately need, but that you’re not wanted, either. And all we ever really want is to be wanted.

The humility to admit when they were the one who screwed up, and enough love for you to give you the apology you deserve with absolutely zero strings attached.

Just because she runs around in sweats and spandex all the time doesn’t mean she doesn’t like an excuse to get dressed up every once in a while.

Go to a museum, see a band or a sports game live, or watch a play or a musical. Experience culture without the help of an illuminated screen.

They’re more ready to do something for you than they will ask something from you.

Make memories. Laugh until you cry. Make lame jokes and witty jokes, sarcastic one-liners and corny comments that make people look at you sideways. Laugh anyway. Laugh despite their looks. Laugh in spite of them.

Some Saturdays you want to spend going out until 4 am, belting out the lyrics to ‘Closing Time’ with the rest of the bar, but the rest of the weekend, it’s not unheard of if you don’t even leave your apartment.

In either instance, be it in their professional or personal lives, the victims of the leak were acting of their own agency. And this in itself is infuriating to the people who think that they shouldn’t.

Seasons are arbitrary, anyway. The best clothes are the ones that transcend style eras.