Dr. Margaret Paul

It’s too easy to leave, too easy to blame the other person, too easy to miss the incredible opportunity that relationships provide for healing and growth.

The challenging truth is that we cannot connect with another until we connect with ourselves.

It’s vitally important to be honest with yourself so that you don’t end up feeling like a victim, and so that you have less of a chance of repeating this in a future relationship.

As soon as someone wants something from him, his terror of losing himself is activated and he automatically resists.

Love is kept alive when each person is more devoted to learning about being loving to themselves and to each other than to getting love.

When you fall in love as a loving adult, instead of as a wounded, needy child or adolescent, your need for the relationship is totally different.

Even if one person in a partnership does their inner work, the entire system can change. So if your partner is not interested, don’t let that stop you from learning to love yourself!

There needs to be a basic spark of attraction. If you do not feel physically attracted to this person within the first six months of the relationship, the chances are this attraction will not develop.

Relationships flourish when both people treat each other with kindness. While there are no guarantees, often treating another with kindness brings kindness in return.

Emotional intimacy feeds the heart and soul. Without it in our lives, we will always feel that something is missing.

Healthy relationships evolve as each person evolves in his or her ability to be loving to themselves and each other.

It is vitally important to find healthy ways of releasing the outrage, heartbreak and helplessness.