Debra Smouse

Our minds will try to convince us that we don’t deserve to have even small pleasures because we haven’t “earned it.”

We get in trouble for being too loud or too messy or too big. And so we begin to shrink into smaller, watered down versions of ourselves. We do this in an attempt to be loved and accepted.

We are choosing to tell ourselves that we don’t have time and we are choosing to not make the time.

Want to know the only thing standing between who you are today and who you desire to be? It’s you.

It means taking stock of what’s really important and what’s not. Commit to not doing the unimportant things anymore.

We fear failure, so either we don’t try at all, or we sabotage a project early. If no one knows that we tried, then they won’t think we’ve failed, right?

They allow healing. They let go of grudges and he withholding of forgiveness and allow their hearts to heal.

These are the deeper fears. The ones that come from within us. The ones that we feel are ours alone and that no one else would get, because they are so deep and personal.

When sex is part of a “be a good boy” reward system in a marriage, then it begins to shift sex away from happiness and love and becomes a way a spouse doles out approval.

Feeling confident and sexy is about being comfortable in your own skin. It’s that simple.

It’s far too easy to just live life by the seat of our pants. And while “going with the flow” sounds easy on the surface, what it leads to is disappointment and dissatisfaction about your life.

We fear intimacy, being vulnerable, being seen as weak, being seen as imperfect. What I am struggling with understanding, is why our fears are so much more important than love.

How you choose to use your womb. Are your parents hinting that you need to hurry up and “make them grandparents,” Sorry mom and pops, what you do with your womb is your decision.

When we fall in love, it all seems so easy at first. Relationships take work. If you’re ready to throw in the towel at the first irritation, ask yourself if you want things to just be easy.

Any step towards the kind of life you desire and the kind of change you desire to make is a courageous one, but your mind will tell you it isn’t enough (hello, self doubt!).

To lose ourselves in that past doesn’t honor our journey – and it does nothing for allowing those lessons to grow into wisdom and inspiration to move forward.

Focusing on fear, negativity, resentment, and old stories can literally destroy not just how you spend your time, but your health.

When served daily, gratitude can fuel your joy, rewire your brain, and shift your entire way of being.