Corinda Lubin-Katz

Human interaction and expression is laced with complications – it’s layered with the unspoken, overshadowed, and misinterpreted.

You can’t click with everyone, and frankly, it’s better that way. It makes the clicks that do happen so much more amazing.

Lately I feel certain that if you don’t utilize whatever is churning inside of you, it will expire, and that is a tremendous waste.

I think it is much of what happens prior to getting into a relationship that determines the quality of that relationship.

We imagine things in grandeur, then the reality falls short and we’re deflated by the dissonance. But we shouldn’t be.

Most of the time, we’re distracted by what we don’t have, what isn’t working, what falls short. It’s kind of a shame that that’s what we’re more inclined to notice.

Basically, if you never count on people, put your hopes into opportunity, believe in yourself and others, then what’s the point?

While part of us will always wish for the best moments to last forever, we know, ultimately, that they neither can nor should.

If you’re lucky enough to discover what you love, you have to hold on to it. You have to show up when it matters – despite fatigue, ambivalence, anxiety, and doubt.

It’s remembering how you felt in a moment, vividly. The same shivers on your skin, ripple through your veins, smile forming inadvertently. It’s reliving it but this time from the outside.

It’s only as challenging as it is rewarding. It’s the type of place that won’t just give — it will expect more of you, it will ask that you earn.

Not all loss is the same. There’s the severing of paths and there’s permanent loss and there’s tragedy. They all hurt, but to different extents and in different ways.

A thought process, an expectation, a desire can become habitual — so much so that you may not realize you no longer need or even want it. You are simply so familiar with needing and wanting it, that your instinctual reaction to giving it up is definitively opposed.

We grow out of wonder in so many ways, and it’s such a shame because it is wonder and wanderlust that most often lead us down the path of an unlikely adventure. Losing that leads us to seek exhilaration and adrenaline in often more destructive settings.

There are far more circumstances that come without guarantee than there are those that do, so risk is an inevitability at certain points if we wish to avoid stagnation, or resigning ourselves to situations with which we are dissatisfied.

We already know that the bounds of that narrow definition are challenged regularly, but it seems that many people forget, or perhaps don’t realize, that true love does not need to be solely between significant others — or that others other than “significant others” can be significant and true.

There are so many better ways to spend your money than on trying to achieve “cool.” Save those precious pennies.

There are times when we need to self-pity, when it serves its purpose — and of course, there are times where try as we might, we cannot elude its grasp. But there are other times — many times — when it is self-indulgent, unproductive, and entirely avoidable.