8 Little Things To Remember When You’re Feeling Jealous Of A Friend’s Success
The difference between successful people and unsuccessful people is not giving up. If you fail, try again. Ask for help and get feedback from whoever is willing to give it to you.
By Becca Martin
1. Other’s success does not mean you’ve failed.
Watching others close to you succeed doesn’t mean you have failed. There is no job where there can only be one of something; there are always more options out there. If you are still working hard and doing what you love then you are more successful than all the other people who might be rich but hate what they do. Always remember that.
2. It is good to be associated with successful people.
It will give you an inside look at the lifestyle without having to put in the work to be there. You never know what they might be able to help you with in the future if you need a hand or a job opportunity. Also, if your sibling or close friend is successful you can live vicariously through them. You know that when a famous person tags one of their friends or siblings you’ve never heard of in a picture you instantly click on their profile to stalk that person too.
3. Use it to motivate you to work harder.
Success often breeds success so don’t let their accomplishments blind you from having your own. Use it as motivation to find your own story. There is more than one way to find success and just because they are successful in one field doesn’t mean that they will excel in the same places you will. So keep working hard and find your niche to excel in.
4. Jealously limits your own chance of success.
If you spend your time ouu-ing and ahh-ing over what someone else has you might never find your own things to be proud of. If anything, it’ll lead you to believe you could never accomplish what they are accomplishing and you are pushing away the things you’re craving so deeply. Feeling excited for someone who becomes successful in front of your eyes will create more positive energy, and more good for both of you in the long run.
5. Acknowledge the hard work they put in prior to their success story.
Unless they are one of the people in the world that inherited everything they have, you can’t assume they didn’t work their asses off to get where they are. You often don’t notice the many trials and errors those face before they get to the top. The difference between successful people and unsuccessful people is not giving up. If you fail, try again. Ask for help and get feedback from whoever is willing to give it to you. Successful people are successful because they put the work and time in. When you want to succeed as bad as you want to breath that is when you’ll get it.
6. Realize you are the only thing holding yourself back from success.
People often like to pin blame or their problems on others, but if you want to achieve things that is something you cannot do. Finding success means realizing your weaknesses and turning them into strengths. It means that you cannot blame others for where you are. Being successful is finding your own forte and improving on it to be the best possible version of yourself you can be.
7. Everything is always changing.
Be happy for them now because nothing in life is certain. They could lose what they have in a few short years down the road and you let your jealously get in the way of things. Be happy for them now because who knows. In a few years you could have a ton happening for you and you will want them there to support you. With how fast things change in life there is no point in wasting time thinking about “what could be.”
8. Being happy for them will improve your overall relationship with them.
A good relationship goes through the ups and downs together, it’s about always being there for the other person. Nothing feels better than when someone is actually happy for you and your success. It will improve your relationship and lead to a happier, more positive life.