Everything You Need To Know About Dating If You Want To Find Your Forever Person

First, know your value and what you have to offer, then set your standards well. Those who want to be in your life will rise up to meet them.

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Ariel Lustre

A few weeks ago, I did a post called 7 Ridiculous Dating Tips You Need To Ignore If You Want Love That Lasts.  I thought it would be appropriate to counterbalance it with a list of excellent pieces of dating advice that all women absolutely should follow.

Never settle for less. First, know your value and what you have to offer, then set your standards well. Those who want to be in your life will rise up to meet them.

Don’t chase him. Men don’t like to be chased. They prefer to be the ones to work hard to get to you. That’s their nature. If a guy is into you, it won’t be necessary for you to chase him because you’ll already be his priority.

Know what you want. Start thinking about what would truly make you happy in life. What kind of relationship do you want? What kind of guy do you want? Think rationally and really give yourself some time to ponder this. You shouldn’t have to kiss too many frogs to understand your own preferences.

Trust his actions, not his words. Pay attention to what a man does, not what he says.  He can say all the right things at all the right times, but you need to know he’s not just all talk. Don’t let a guy win you over with just his words. His actions will tell you everything you need to know.

Have an abundance mentality. A scarcity mindset will leave you feeling desperate and clingy around guys you are dating. Having an abundance mentality allows you to be more relaxed because you understand that if things don’t work out with one guy, there will always be someone else right around the corner.

Trust your gut.  I don’t mean listen to your insecure thoughts or paranoia. There’s a difference between that and what your gut is telling you, and when it starts talking, you’ll know. Your mind can play tricks, your heart can be fooled, but your gut is always right.

Check your baggage. Whatever happened in your past, find a way to deal with it and move on. Don’t bring your baggage from an ex into your new relationship.

Be awesome and know it. Take care of yourself, get your life together, go after your goals. When you are a kickass woman, and know you are without shame or apology, your guy will think so too. Thought Catalog Logo Mark