Amira Abdel-Fadil

It was a blessing and a curse, because while I had to deal with my everyday life like everyone else, my emotions were a really big hurdle to navigate.

The truth is, our lives are actually a lot about the messy moments, our not-so-proud moments, our darknesses, and the fight we fight every day to overcome them. So when people act like there is nothing happening in their lives because it just might be too ugly or straightforward or unflattering, we end up normalizing people who always tell you predictable things. 

I think perhaps love should be more pragmatic than that. It’s finding someone who wants to struggle with you because they choose to.

I write because I want to express myself, but there is always the question: What is good enough? 

The desire to be perfect right away is a failure in itself.

Sometimes all we need is a hug.

Everybody’s definition of love is different, but we should always ask ourselves: Is my way of love considerate and does it set the person free or does it suffocate them?

I want to experience life at its fullest.

Love means vulnerability. Love means putting yourself out there.

You are a human who gets tired, who has feelings, who absorbs so much on a daily basis, a human who deserves a pat on the shoulder every once in a while.

You really are a project, and identity is quite a fluid thing.

The truth is, at the end of the day, I believe all of us want to be real.

They look at you and can’t comprehend how it’s possible that you are allowing this.

I would like you to know that there isn’t a day that passes by where your memory is not lingering at the back of my mind.

If you fully gave yourself to someone and they did the same for you, at some point in time, isn’t that enough to say it was love?

Your life will change when you begin to trust yourself.

Despite the darkest things they see, some people will walk into your life and love those parts you think are unlovable.

 I hope that when someone comes to speak to you about their trauma and grievance, you try to be a safe space for their trembling voice.