This Is Why The Woman Who Gives You ‘Tough Love’ Is The One For You
It's the woman who doesn't take your shit who is the one for you. It isn't the woman who loves you no matter what, it's the woman who shows you tough love, because she's the woman who is going to bring out the best in you.
By Aly McHenry
Forget everything you’ve ever heard about how the woman who constantly forgives you and loves you unconditionally is somehow the one for you. She isn’t.
It’s the woman who doesn’t take your shit who is the one for you. It isn’t the woman who loves you no matter what, it’s the woman who shows you tough love, because she’s the woman who is going to bring out the best in you.
Most men will run scared, simply because they aren’t tough enough themselves to be with her. It takes a real man, and if you’re that real man then the benefits of her love are endless.
She will always believe in you. With her, you will never have someone tearing you down or belittling you because of their own insecurities. You’ll have someone who builds you up, constantly. When you think you can’t do something, she’ll know you can. She’ll push you to do the things you believed were impossible, to show you that you can do anything. She’ll push you until you see yourself, how she sees you. Because she’ll genuinely want you to know how amazing you truly are.
She will be your biggest cheerleader. With her, you will get endless support and will always have a partner in crime. She’ll never stand behind you, or in front of you. She will remain at your side through every accomplishment, and every failure. You’re a team, and you’re stuck with her no matter what. Because her love is tough enough to withstand every moment with you.
She will stick with you through the toughest situations. She won’t bolt for the hills when life gets hard. She’ll be strong when you can’t be and she’ll love you through any and every tragedy. As long as what you’re facing isn’t your own unforgivable betrayal, you have her for life, as a partner, as a best friend, as a lover, and above all else, as a soulmate.
She will love you so damn much, and her love doesn’t go away. Her love will be the most powerful force you have ever felt in your entire life. You won’t have to watch your words with her. She isn’t delicate, because she can take what she gives. So show her tough love too. You’ll bring out the best in her, like she’s brought out the best in you, and together you’ll be unstoppable.
Men in the past have mistook her love as demanding, but that couldn’t be further from the truth. Her love isn’t demanding, it’s powerful, encouraging, and hopeful. But she’ll be damned if you don’t give her that in return. So call her demanding if you must, but what it really is, is a woman who knows what you’re worth. It’s a woman who believes in you, more than you believe in yourself. So please, believe in her too.
She won’t let you walk all over her, and she won’t let you get away with the shit you might have gotten away with in the past. You’ll have to be honest with her, and treat her with the respect she deserves. She won’t accept excuses, and she’ll push you to be the very best version of yourself every single day, but I promise you it’s all worth it.
She’ll hold you accountable for your actions and she’ll show you tough love when you need it. But that’s why she’s the one for you. Because she’ll make you better and that’s what real love is supposed to do. So don’t run scared, run to her.
Her love will change your life, and together, the two of you will change the world.