Alex Carabi

You know what needs to change, but something’s stopping you. You’re not developing into the leader you want to be.

If you’re developing into the role as a leader, odds are it’s because you’ve been a top-notch “doer” for a long time.

Goals can seem like a good idea. They allow us to focus our attention and channel our energy toward a common direction. They sound innocent enough.

Opportunities for growth and adventure are everywhere — if you know where to look, that is.

Those who responded to the feeling of guilt—who felt bad for thinking for themselves and venturing out on their own—returned to their group and survived.

The doing problem is stress, fatigue, and burnout. The being problem is an unconscious need to struggle.

The offensive stance is about action.

In an attempt to give ourselves the freedom of choice, we end up constraining ourselves. In a pursuit toward opening future possibilities, we create paralysis instead.

There are a lot of reasons for why we’re hesitant to make choices. Status quo bias is one—we prefer the current state of reality, because we know what it is. Making a choice is a step into the unknown, into a new world of uncertainty. That can be scary.

Be who you want to become.