You Will Ruin Your 20s By Searching For Your Forever Person

You will ruin your 20s by assuming that you should have your life together by now. By thinking that it is normal for someone your age to be married with children and a house that is fully paid off by your high paying office jobs.

You will ruin your 20s by feeling like you are behind, like everyone else has figured themselves out while you are still lost, instead of realizing that you are exactly where you are meant to be.

You will ruin your 20s by settling for the first person that you find, because you don’t want to say that you’re alone. Because you don’t want to be the one person in your group that hasn’t found the person they intend on spending the rest of their life alongside.

You will ruin your 20s by remaining in a toxic relationship because you don’t want to return to the dating scene and start all over again. Because you would rather spend your nights arguing with a partner who doesn’t respect you than go on dates that might lead you nowhere better than where you are right now.

You will ruin your 20s if you rush through your life. If you jump into a serious relationship before you’re really ready. If you dive headfirst into marriage at a young age. You already regret wishing your childhood away, and you’re going to regret doing the same thing with your twenties. You have the rest of your life to settle down. You don’t have to do it right now. You have time. Much more time than you think.

You will ruin your 20s if your main focus is on finding love. If you pay less and less attention to your passions, to your friendships, to your dreams — because you are too occupied with thoughts of settling down. Because all you care about is love, and everything else pales in comparison.

You will ruin your 20s if you act like love is what makes the world go ’round. If you spend every second of your day talking about the boy that you have feelings for or the girl that you can’t stop thinking about. If you neglect the friends who want to see you and the parents who need your help around the house because you would rather swipe through dating apps.

You will ruin your 20s by considering yourself a failure, just because you haven’t found your forever person yet. By assuming that all of your friends are ahead and you are behind, because your relationship statuses are so different.

Your 20s aren’t reserved for dating. Your 20s are a time for you. For you to find yourself. For you to realize what you really need. For you to develop into the person you were destined to become.

Despite what you’ve grown up to believe, you don’t need to find your forever relationship when you’re this young. Thinking that you do is the easiest way to waste away your 20s.